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FormerMember
FormerMember
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Hi Everyone.. My first time on here, suppose I'm looking for some answers and just to talk. My wife had breast cancer and 13 months later has had the all clear but mentally can't accept it as they won't show her her mammogram, she saw the first one and was shown the cancer but won't show her the last one, it's getting her down she won't eat she tells everyone else she's fine she even helps others we know that have been diagnosed with cancer but I see her behind closed doors, she even helps my me dealing with my mate that's terminal, I'm trying to get her to a help group or even on here but feel like I'm nagging. 

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    FormerMember

    Hi there, I'm so sorry for all that you are both going through. I'm guessing that your wife would feel happier if she could see her mammogram. Would it be possible for you to ask privately why they won't show it, ask macmillan  by phone if they have any advice.? She sounds a very caring person who is keeping herself busy, but struggling when she stops. You are also stressed, understandably. I'm sure others will share their experiences  and give you  better understanding x

  • Hi and a warm welcome to Carers. It does seem strange that they won't show your wife the recent mammograms. I wonder whether they might feel she would misinterpret the scar tissue (if she had radiotherapy that is)? It's not unusual for someone to feel totally out of sorts mentally and emotionally after treatment. I'm paging because he has a lot of experience with caring for someone with breast cancer and he might be able to help more than I can.

    I think you're right that 'nagging' won't help, but on the other hand, neither do you want to stand back and watch her worry so much. I would certainly have a chat to her specialist nurse and/or her GP, and the sooner the better; not eating can only lead to poor health and worsening mental health. Remember your own health too and do talk to us, we're here for you.

    Thinking of you,

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