Hi I am new to this group and was wondering if anyone had any advice to share. My partner has recently been diagnosed with a brain tumour and we get the results of the biopsy this week. I am currently the only person working in the household as my partner had been unwell for some time before their diagnosis and we have 4 children together. So far I have taken all my paid entitlement to carers leave and am due to return to work on Saturday. I am a shift worker for the NHS and was wondering if anyone had any experience of requesting flexible working that allows for you the time to take your loved one to appointments etc. I want to be there to support my partner through everything but also need to keep working to keep paying for everything our household and family need. I am also now the only driver of the household and need to consider getting children to and from school as well as working, the simple option seems requesting night shifts but I worry I may burn myself out in the process. If anyone has experienced anything similar I would appreciate your thoughts. Many thanks xx
Hi and welcome to Carers. If you go to our Ask an Expert page and scroll down, you'll find the work support advisor who will be able to help I'm sure. Quite right about the night shift option; burnout is the bane of the carer's life. Your partner's specialist nurse might be able to help find someone to sit with your partner for a while when you have to be out; there's a 'buddy scheme' that is very helpful. I'm sure others will soon reply with their own experiences.
Thinking of you,
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