Hi there
New to this didn’t know if I should but here it goes.
Wife had surgery 2 years ago to take tumour out of stomach which the said was benign. Discharge after with no follow ups.
December just gone was diagnosed with terminal cancer with 6 months to a year to live, half way through chemo and stopping as it’s not working. Found out the tumour they took out 2 years back was actually cancer.
the treatment from the team dealing with my wife have been in my opinion awful, get told the worst news in the world and then sent in to waiting room with everyone else, surely there should be a room to go and have a moment? One phone call from a nurse in first week to see how we are and that’s it. We are not people to ask for help but was wondering if this is standard?
Hi and a warm welcome to Carers. The treatment you describe is certainly not anything I've been subjected to, we had plenty of time with a specialist. I wonder if it might be a good idea to call the helpline for advice; they're on 0808 808 0000 and the line is open 8am to 8pm every day and I would urge to reconsider asking for help, you are as much entitled to support as anyone else. Any cancer diagnosis is like a kick in the stomach, but so much worse when it's terminal and you need support as much as your wife. There's also this page with links for finding support.
Thinking of you,
LoobyLou
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