Struggling

Hi

it's good to hear that you're going to see your GP, the last thing you need is to be ill yourself but it happens to so many of us carers as we tend to neglect our own health. You might like to pop your post code in here to find any cancer support groups in your area and there might be a Maggies Center near you; they are brilliant with supporting carers practically. If your husband hasn't been referred to Macmillan it's worth asking your GP to do that as it will open up other support for you. It can be hard to reach out and ask for help for ourselves but it's an essential step to keep your head above water. Do chat to someone on the helpline when you need to, 0808 808 0000, they're open every day 8am-8pm and the line is manned by experts.

Love and hugs,

Thank you,

i have been to our Maggies and it’s lovely but I haven’t gelled with anyone enough to open up.

work wants me to contact our health assistance place but it’s all by phone and that’s not for me.

GP isn’t for 2 weeks, was meant to be today but clashed with oncology so changed it, I know I can be seen sooner if I need.

my 22 year old son has severe learning disabilities, he lives at home with us, hubby is step dad to him. I’ve been a carer his whole life and I’ve never been good at asking for help. X

Hi , that's an awful lot for you to manage on your own, but I hear what you're saying. Connecting on here is a way of reaching out and I hope you will be able to talk to us whenever you need to. There's another place you could try, Carers Trust who help with all sorts of practical things; it might be worth trying, just to have another port of call. Perhaps you could keep in mind that you deserve support as much as anyone else.

Thinking of  you,