Post surgery

Hi Lizzie59

im sorry to hear that your husband is feeling unwell post surgery & I understand your worry. My husband has the same cancer and following surgeries he has been the same. The advice I was given at the time was that post surgery patients often get lethargic and depressed. Has your husband had any follow up appointments to check his bloods etc? If not you could contact your GP and ask them to come and check him over just to rule anything out. Also he may benefit from some of the prescription supplements that my husband was given if he isn’t eating very well. 

It’s really hard to see your husband this way but please ask for support from your GP and Macmillan team so that they can make sure there are no post surgery complications and offer you some help. It’s natural to try and solve everything yourself but believe me you will run yourself into the ground, help and reassurance is out there so don’t worry about asking. I struggled for 5 years and have only recently reached out for help & support and I wish I had done it sooner.

im sure many others will reply to your post soon with lots more wonderful advice so you have come to the right place.

take care & a hug for you x

Hi my partner had a whipples operation for Pancreatic cancer last November. Since then his appetite has been poor, he says food doesn't taste the same, fortunately he has  had plenty of weight to loose. He has also been very lethargic, grumpy  very unmotivated. He refuses to admit that there is anything wrong and in fact he's recovered amazingly well. I try to distance myself from the anger, walks with the dog are a welcome relief. He is not receptive to help but last week enrolled on a carpentry course. Hopefully time will help you both. We are a work in progress, but I hope its a good sign