My partner passed in 2019 after a 12 year battle with cancer. She fought and beat cancer many times but in the end she had Leukaemia and after a 4 month battle, she left behind my stepdaughter and me after 17 wonderful years together.
Around 2022 a lady who works in my local supermarket started getting the same bus to home. She lived around the corner to me with her boyfriend who is not a nice person. We started talking and I mentioned about my partner passing, this is when she replied that she has been fighting breast cancer since 2013 but is in remission and still receiving treatments. We have been travelling together at least 2 times a week and really get on.
About 3 weeks ago she left her boyfriend after he basically attacked her and is back home with her parents. She has asked me if we can go out as Friends sometimes and I'm happy too as she doesn't have any. Last night we agreed to meet up during Easter weekend for a drink.
The thing is I get the feeling she may want to be more than just friends, she is gorgeous, strong, a bit dipsy and very funny, just my type. We do get on really well and I would love to be more than friends but I'm worried about losing her to cancer. Losing my partner was so devastating and I think about her all the time. She would want me to move on and so does my stepdaughter who still lives with me.
I just don't know what to do and really don't want to hurt this lady with my worries of losing her if we get close together.
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