Hi
I lost my dad coming up to 2 months ago now 3 days after the loss of his sister, my aunt, both with lung cancer hers advanced to her brain.
I feel like im lost it feels like ive accepted it but on the othet hand it feels like im also stuck in denial that hes gone and not just sat at his home enjoying a belgian bun watching day time telly. The lasr 2 months feel like a blur sorting through everything arranging his funeral, attending my aunts funeral.
My family havent been there my 2 brothers havent reached out we werent on the best terms prior to my dads diagnoses at the end of last year (me and my brothers have different dads) and my mum who was divorsed from my dad has tried to make it all about her as at the time of finding out my dad had passed i couldnt function for days and she stated if i needed support i should of asked otherwise how was she to know i wasnt ok. My husband has been my sole support and has been wonderful but i cant help feel alone and lost i was truly a daddys girl and cant imagine this world without him in it like it cant be real he isnt here anymore!
Hi MrsD17
I’m Steph from the Community team, I hope you don’t mind me posting here to offer some further support.
I was so sorry to hear about the loss of both your dad and your auntie. When you’re coping with so much bereavement it’s natural to go through all sorts of emotions. You will need to take things day by day and ask for further support when you need it.
You’re not alone MrsD17 and there’s lots of support available for you.
I hope you’ve found it helpful to share your feelings here on the Community. By me replying here today, your post will be bumped up the forum so that more members will have the chance to see your post and reply if they feel able to.
It is positive that you’ve taken steps to connect with others going through a bereavement. Once you feel ready, you can read through other members experiences in the bereaved family and friends forum and join in some conversations, if you feel comfortable.
I have just offered some similar support to this new member of the Community who is feeling overwhelmed after the loss of their dad. You might find it helpful to connect with them to share peer support.
If you feel like you might benefit from further support, there’s lots of help available to you. Macmillan have some information to help you cope with some of the feelings or questions you may have.
If you’d like to talk anything through with us, Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
‘Ataloss’ is a website that helps bereaved people find support and wellbeing.
Cruse provide bereavement support and are here to help, however long you have been grieving.
I hope this helps show that you’re not alone and that there is a lot of support available for you. Please do keep sharing your feelings on the Community and reach out for further support whenever you need it.
Please do get back in touch with us if you have any questions or need any help with the site. You can email us at community@macmillan.org.uk or send a private message (PM) to Moderator - Macmillan Community
Best wishes
