Struggling 18 months on

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Hi 

I lost my husband to liver cancer. He had an horrific time with transplant and lots of complications.   I felt that I coped at first but I literally threw myself back into life trying to live for both of us    Now I’ve crashed. I’m numb. I can’t look forward to anything. I don’t care about anything.  I’ve also just lost 2 dogs within two weeks.  I don’t see a future at all 

  • Hi 

    I lost my husband 16 months ago to prostate cancer, but it went to his bladder and liver. I too seem to be coping less well. I kept very busy but become less sociable. Now I am just exhausted from everything, hate plans and don't feel joy in the things I used to. It gets harder and more lonely as people think you should be getting over it. 

    I'm really sorry for you and losing 2 dogs is very hard. That must have been the final straw for you. I hope you have some understanding friends and family who can support you.

    I find some time doing something creative on my own is distracting and calming. We are different people now and have to find a way to live as this new person. Its rubbish I know but hopefully slowly slowly we will get stronger again. 

    Take care of yourself. 

  • Thank you for the message.   That’s exactly how I feel.  Glad to hear I’m not just going mad.  Have signed up for a rag rug course.  I’m hoping that will help 

  • Sounds perfect! And you are not going mad. It’s hard.
    After replying to you I realised I should practice what I preach so I am going to finish a jumper I started. So thank you too. Enjoy your course Slight smile