Hi all, I'm new to Cancer. I went for a mammogram and came out with Grade 2B Breast Cancer, a bit of a shock. Within weeks I've had surgery and now waiting to hear what happens next.
Throughout all of this Covid 19 has been a concern. I live on my own, so loneliness is my biggest issue, that and boredom. I've had so many Covid tests, every 3 days for nearly 2weeks before surgery!
How are other people managing with feeling isolated, bored and lonely due to this dual issue cancer and covid? And what helps?
Hello Sarah Steps,
I am sorry you find yourself here and at such crazy times. Well Done on getting the surgery over with, once you know 'what is next' you can then start to move forward. The waiting always seems the hardest part of this journey.
With regards to the Covid, I think we are all dealing with it differently. If Im honest before Covid I was a bit of a ...what word, 'freak' maybe about germs ... predominantly not wanting to catch colds - as they always seemed to knock me off my feet - so avoidance of anyone with a cold was always my mission.
Since 'lock-down' I am and still am avoiding going out 'in general' - like I would not feel comfortable going to a pub, I am avoiding the shops - doing all shopping online and if I haven't got something I would rather do without. I have various health issues, weight, blood pressure, board-line diabetes to name a few, plus my husband has issues and my mother is nearly 90 - so we are all trying to avoid everything and everyone as best we can.
The isolation is driving my mum mad and does feel lonely from time to time. I so wished I could get mum interested in a hobby - she is not mathematical etc, so doesn't play games etc. Mum will do knitting - but won't count the stitches, so most gets undone again. However, I have got mum onto jigsaws - not large ones, so far mum has done two 500 piece and as just started on a 1000 .... saying that she is not going to do it... but I think slowly she is getting into it.
I don't seem to feel it has I have a lot of work I am (still) trying to catch up on, the days just seem to be flying.
My hardest part so far, was taking the cat to the vets, well, I nearly sent myself off into a panic attack not wanting to be in the surgery, but needs must. There was a screen in place, we wore masks and my cat was examined without me present. My emotions are all over the place with these type of situations. My biggest fear would be needing the dentist.
I am due my yearly mammogram in October - however, at the moment I am unsure what the procedure will be.
We are living in such crazy times - what I will say is, don't feel alone, there is someone always about especially if you click on the 'AWAKE' thread, there is someone always nipping in and out of there - we share jokes, moan, help each other, virtually everything goes on on that thread.... we even have our very own "Lucky Pants" - Lucky Pants is extra special he will 'virtually' come to any of your appointments and keep you company - he's brilliant.
So, don't be a stranger, pop onto the AWAKE thread ... if you have problems sleeping we even have a fresh delivery every night of 'Sleep Fairy Dust' - it all goes on in there.
Hopefully this is a link to the AWAKE thread ....
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