Oh I had a really bad day yesterday, I was diagnosed with breast cancer on 21nov and I’ve found it so difficult to deal with “why me” after losing my 2 best friends to cancer 3 years ago at the age 57 ( 6 weeks apart ) I was filled with absolute dread when I was told I also had cancer and I’m 57 next year
scared isn’t the word !! , they were terminal but hopefully I will be cured of the “c” , fighting talk now !!! I’m not going anywhere!! I also have been tackling a water infection I’ve had since before had 1st chemo on18th Dec I’ve been on the wrong antibiotics 3 times and finally now on the correct one !, amoxicillin for 5 days only 2 days left and hopefully it will be gone “finally “!!, . Just one thing is I’ve a terrible headache today I’ve taken paracetamol but not gone away , temp ok and feel well otherwise, I did mention it to Hodu at Airedale but wasn’t concerned. I will probably be a regular on here once I’ve found my way around as I need help with anxiety from time to time when it gets unbearable and sleepless nights and anxiety is the Pitts!! . Speak soon Dawna
hi
welcome to the online community, sorry you've had to come and find us
that's a lot to take in ... I'm just going to look at your other post
panic is normal, 'why me' is also normal, scared is also normal
are you drinking enough fluids? I know it's difficult if you feel you're needing to go all the time but flushing it out could work to help the antibiotics do their job
Carolyn
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real life success stories to remind you that people do survive breast cancer
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/38/t/115457
Dr Peter Harvey
https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf
Instead of why me think why not me! Strangely it helps.
I too panicked when diagnosed with BC. My mother and sister died within weeks of being diagnosed with different cancers . My mother 31 years ago to bowel cancer and my sister 8 years ago to brain cancer but here I am 4 years after my diagnosis!
Hi Dawna, I am also new on here. I was diagnosed just 3 weeks ago and also struggling with panicked thoughts. My mum died of Breast cancer last year, she was diagnosed in the January and died of a stroke in March. It’s all just a bit close to home but when I’m thinking positively I remember what my oncologist said and that is everyone has a different situation and the amazing treatments on offer mean they can treat our personal needs. I am never going to be cured of cancer but I am going to fight to get into remission and then believe that the experts can manage me. A friend of mine wisely said today that people need to start thinking about cancer as something that can be managed like diabetes, it doesn’t need to be a death sentence. We all need to stick together and think positive thoughts. I just can’t leave my family yet so we have to fight and I hope you can find it within you to do so too. Lots of love x
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