Hi everyone!! I'm 42 and my cancer diagnoses date was 10 sep 2019. Its stage 2 breast cancer. Since the diagnoses I have had a roller coaster effect with my feelings, from anger to complete sadness and complete shut down mode. My partner left me about 3 weeks ago and it has been a messy break up. She won't even be civil any more, saying it's not me, it's the cancer. On top of this I am struggling with the thought of continuing treatment. Not because I dont want to but because I feel worthless due to the breakdown of my relationship. I'm in the mindset of if she couldnt deal with the cancer who is going to in the future. I am still going to my treatment, because deep.down I know I need to keep going. Im scared of the future. Is this normal?
Hi lovely
completely normal. You’ve described my feelings exactly. And I’m definitely normal lol
read my bio in my post. Mine was a long diagnosis but official date was 23 September
had my op last Thursday
Dear monkey, have you ever heard the expression ‘When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them well your partner showed you who they are, but this is not who you are. You are a valid human being in your own right one who is worthy of love and affection. 0f course you must continue with your treatment, the future is a uncertain place for all of us cancer or not, but now is the time for you to focus on your own well being both physical and emotional, I believe that there is someone out there for everyone no matter what the circumstances but it has to be the right time and the time now is for you to concentrate on yourself.
best wishes
jane
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