Struggling to stay positive today

Hiya hayreed,

I am not sure that I can answer you fully. I had a bc dx in 2016 but although I worry about a secondary dx, I haven't had one yet. So I cannot really put myself in your shoes. These days there seem to be so many treatment options that ever there was before. It may be that there may be a better response in the secondary group that I can see you have joined. There are several ladies that have secondary cancer that do post on here so please keep on posting.

Cwtches,

Gay xxx

Thank you for replying, this is all very new to me I’m not one for talking about how I feel about stuff xx

hay xx

hayreed,

Please feel free to let out all your emotions on here. Cry, Rant, Scream. whatever there is someone here for you.We are here for you.

Cwtches, 

Gay xxx

Thank you x. I was only diagnosed on the 29th May and told it had spread roughly 2 weeks later, I have to stay strong and positive for the children and family, but today is the first time I’ve had the whole day to myself which turns out it’s not a good idea.

hay xx

Well the good idea is that you have found this forum!!!

Please don't visit Dr Google - he gives outdated information, 

Cwtches, 

Gay xxx

Hi and welcome hayreed

You don't say whether you usually have someone with you at your appointments or how old your kids are and how much they know...but if you feel at this point you need to be strong, it is important that you have a person or place where you can let it all out. 

Here is just such a place...the fab folk here can give advice, support, lend a shoulder, a hug, you can rant, voice your fears etc.

No question is too silly and everyone understands the roller coaster of emotions.

You may not usually talk about how you feel but I hope getting your thoughts out here will be do-able...it is definitely not a sign of weakness or self indulgent. There is a lot to be said for keeping busy and distracting yourself during the inevitable times when you are waiting... for appointments, for results, for reports, for meetings etc etc...but its equally important to put yourself front and centre at times ( we are rubbish at this) and to have the space and time to begin to process the journey you're on.

Enough of this deep stuff, have a welcome hug, oh and if you're awake in the small hours, the place to be is the Awake thread with others who are not asleep either.

Take care

Hi

thank you for your message it made me smile x

i have 3 children 16,11 and 9, I have told them everything apart from the stage it’s at as I don’t want them looking stuff up themselves, they are dealing with it well we talk openly about it and they know they can ask anything they want, if not to me then another family member, I usually have someone with me at most appointments even the little ones like PICC line cleaning, they won’t let me go alone, my eldest came with me in my first chemo appointment I did him good to see other people going through this and still smiling and laughing and my parents and sister are sharing the rest.  

I have great family support but they don’t need to deal with me feeling sorry for myself, tbh this is the first time I’ve really felt like that. 

Thank you for the support I will try to use this more often

hayley xx

hayreed

So that’s what here is for

To metaphorically lick those wounds; howl at the moon and share the poop

I feel strongly that open and honest with youngsters is important . To not allow the Chinese whispers of fear and doubt to multiply in their minds. Plus to drip feed the info as and when needed

So drop the poop here I did nearly 2 years ago and I pop by every now and then if I need to see that my daily poop is not as frightening as a your daily poop

Leolady56