Hello...I’m new and nervous

Hi

Welcome and can I firstly say ...breeeeeeath...and again....

At this time your mind and emotions are whirling because you have had a big shock and are looking at many possibilities and as yet have no hook of certainty to grab hold of.

Gentle hug

As you have seen, this place is full of information and advice, a place where you can voice your fears, have a rant and where appropriate a silly giggle.

All the people here are just like you... all were and are shocked, fragile, angry, but also getting on with the doing of this journey...just as you are...you have already decided you want to grab and enjoy life.

You will feel more in control when you know more about what is happening. 

I understand how hard it is when your man doesn't have the skills to comfort you...mine doesn't either. I see that you are concerned about burdening your family members but perhaps this may not be how they would see it. 

Is anyone going with you to your appointments?

Take care

It’s always worse at night isn’t it!  Once you have the results tomorrow you will regain control.  Breast cancer is not a death sentence but it’s hard hearing the C word!  Be kind to yourself if the news is good or bad .  If it’s good you may feel anger at medical professionals putting you through this anxiety but think how much worse you would have felt if they had told you it was nothing with no tests.  

If it’s bad news they may give you your probable treatment plan, chemo isn’t always needed.  I had surgery to remove offending area and a radiotherapy and then just annual check ups.

Good luck tomorrow and ket us know how you got on xx

Dearest ,

i am sorry you find yourself here, it’s the place we all seem to find yet none of us wanted to.  You will find we are a great bunch of Fruit Loops - I think we are how we are because.... we get it, we understand how hearing such words totally knocks you, we understand.  We know that all of a sudden we think this is it - and slowly, little by little we gain strength, information, understanding and then realise ‘we can do this’ - ‘we can and fill get through this’. 

A couple if things I will say....

you have already braces yourself for whst you think your news will be - you don’t know yet, but, let’s say it is .... once you are given a treatment plan you will feel so much more in control.  

Your dear mum - well, would you want to tell her.... I couldn’t tell my mum, I just couldn’t, it would of broke her, plus every day I would be asked ‘how are you and treated like I was ill ‘ - so no, no my mum was told I’d got a little lump and doctor said it’s best to come out - to be safe.  That’s as much as mum knew. 

(Plus I went for combined lumpectomy and radiotherapy, called TARGET IORT - my treatment was all done in one operation (this is now available on the NHS at a few hospitals- this treatment seems to gets hidden - it’s so not fair).  

I’m saying all this - you still don’t know yet.  It coukd be a number of different things. You’ve not long now to wait and then you can move forward.  

Remember, you are not in your own - you will get through this. 

Sending big hugs, we are here for you and we will be thinking of you xxx

Ps.......

Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. I’m being over dramatic aren’t I? It happens sometimes and my thoughts snowball. We’ll see what today brings.  

Whatever today brings......you are never 'over dramatic' on this site. It's here for you to express exactly how you feel. If someone can help with a word of advice, they will.....but equally we are just here to listen, give you a big cyber hug and say....today will pass. Tomorrow?.....we'll deal with tomorrow when it comes!

I do hope your results are good but if not.......come back and chat, rant, cry , laugh, ask questions . Someone will be here for you.

Love Karen

Don't feel bad - all reactions are perfectly valid and this journey is about you - not other people's feelings!  I have suffered from anxiety for most of my adult life, but only given help four or five years ago. Now on citilopram, managed to reduce dose to 10mgs but gone back up to 20 again now to cope with the situation.  I was seen by a consultant immediately after my biopsy and ultra-sound and she made it quite clear that it was cancer although she didn't say as much - we overheard her say to the student - you see some people are quite stoical!  Now referred to as Dr. Death, I went home with thoughts of organised my funeral and ordering a casket!  Fortunately the consultant I saw for my follow up was much more positive - obviously horrified that I had gone home with such black thoughts and assured me that it was treatable.  Fortunately she was the consultant I saw for most of my visits and I remained surprisingly up beat, had successful surgery which was straight forward and surprisingly pain free.  My crash came when I was referred on to the oncologist but with luck you may avoid chemotherpy.  Do you know anyone who was been on this journey and is happy to chat to you?  They will understand best of all and be really supportive.  Love and hugs xx

Thinking of you today....you are all ready to support you whatever the result. 

Morning Ilovetrees as someone has already said just breathe ! 

We have all been where you are now( my story on my profile ) that limbo feeling . 

Personally once I had results I also took control back . I really do hope your results today are the best you can get .If not get yourself back on here and you'll find all the help and support you'll need . You will find the path that helps you most .

you have already gained the positive thought of yes you do want to live WOW ! 

I too have a hubby who acts like a ostrich..  silver lining is he's buried his head in paint tin instead of sand ! I just keep giving him lists  

So it is. It. Grade 3, ER+ ductal cancer? That’s all I know right now. They’re going to do a lumpectomy week tomorrow. They said nothing in my lymph nodes that they can tell of just yet but will check during operation. They said they got it early which is good. Grade 3 doesn’t sound great though