Decision making

Hi

Sorry I can’t help you , I had a mastectomy with immediate reconstruction, I was told this and asked if that was ok with me - I said yes and my new boob looks great - no regrets . 

Think how you will feel on a bad day - if you didn’t have the uplift ? Would this depress you ? I thought I would be fine going flat but I know if I had.,  I would have had miserable days and wallow in self pity - BUT. That’s just me , I have low self esteem. 

Dont rush ask to speak to a breast care nurse or plastics nurse and ask to see photos , ask about recovery , ask if things can go wrong . Ask ask ask . Also ask once this trauma has passed can you get surgery later - I just wanted it over and done in one go ! 

Good luck 

love 

Ruby Rose  

You can ask for more info/time.  It’s your body.  I was asked at diagnosis on the Wednesday if I wanted other boob reduced at same time (I’m a G cup) to get a good cosmetic result!  I said I don’t know I need to think about!  The BCN came out to see me on the Friday and the surgeon had changed her mind as at a meeting they thought she would get a good cosmetic result so no need to touch other boob. 

Ok though as I had decided not to mess with good boob as mainly I didn’t want unnecessary surgery.  So I had lumpectomy only and you can barely see the dent in the top of my boob where they operated.  

Sorry only a quick reply - I was offered this and advised this.... however did research and it was not needed. I had lumpectomy with ‘immediate’ radiotherapy. (This is now available on the NHS at ‘limited hospitals’ - there are conditions ‘single lump’ etc. You ‘should’ be told about every treatment - to enable you to choose your treatment.  (It is a Doctors/Consultants duty to tell you of EVERY type of treatment - even if they don’t do it at their hospital).  

I joined this forum a right state, lumpectomy or therapeutic mammoplasty - I’d talked myself into the mammoplasty - for various reasons.  Then talked to another surgeon (the one that went in to do my operation). He explained there was no benefit in having such s big operation - when a lumpectomy could be performed leaving me with one boob slightly bigger than the other. 

It’s such a hard position to be in - you get in this roller coaster of a ride and until you know what is going on - you are all over the place. 

Remember even now your ride has started - you will get there - things will soon start to fall into place.  

The combined treatment is TARGET ‘IORT’ inter-operative radiotherapy - ask, you may even be a candidate for this treatment.  

Sending hugs xxxx

You have been a great help,thank you so much.

Thank you.

Thank you so much, you have been such a help 

I have similar story 3 weeks ago was called back from mammogram my final one before 70 yrs for assessment .The results were calcification in the breast . Was reassured that they could not feel any lump or see one on ultra sound . Biopsy has come back invasive and non invasive . I got results last Thursday and now need to decide lumpectomy or mastectomy . The speed which everything is happening is so scary ! Feeling very emotional waiting for second biopsy results tomorrow to confirm size as there is some dispute . My logic tells me go with mastectomy as area of cancer is large  , so lumpectomy would mean large incision . Masectomy would take place on Thursday . Also at 70 I don't really want to risk masectomy after a lumpectomy . It's just the decision making especially when you say masectomy and they come back with are you sure ( I know why they ask ) of course I'm not sure I don't want to be here !! Thanks for listening .

Apologies for the bee pictures, they've appeared and I don't know how to get rid!!!

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Life would be so much easier if we were simply told-this is what you have to go through and not given choices. These choices are so hard to make. Especially when we are having to deal with the fact that we have been told that we have breast cancer, that's hard enough to have to deal with. Wishing you all the very best.x

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Being given choices that seem impossible to make are so hard. Why can't they just tell us what we have to have done. It's bad enough having to get our heads around what we've been told.

Sending you love and best wishes.xx

No need to apologise for bees love them ! Sorry you find yourself in this situation .Such a weird thing you on your first mammogram and myself on what should have been my last both being diagnosed. My indecision comes from two radiologist disagreeing on size 30mm or 50mm and of course fear of either surgery . Plus Are you Sure ? Begs the answer no ! Thankyou for the best wishes and hope goes well with your decision making and in the future . These things might be easier if we could switch of the emotional side . I seem to be doing nothing but cry