hi all , ive not wrote for while son thought i would come say hello and let you all no were im up too , well after my ct scan coming back clear everything has been put into place , im in hospital next friday to have a masceptomy and lymph nodes removed , i dont know how to feel i thought i was coping well till today when i had my pre op and i broke down . im worried about afew things mainly how my partner is going to take it , i cant have reconstruction till all my treatment is over is prob in 12 months time . they sy i will more than likey to need chemo and radiotharpy . can any body give me and advise plz , im going to the doctors tomoz coz im not sleeping well ...
blhope xxx
I'm sorry you're feeling so rough today. Big cyber hug coming your way.....
Don't feel bad because it has all caught up with you....These are major changes to your life and everything up until this point happened so quickly and there is so much to absorb.
Now you have a slight pause before next week's op, it's only natural now you have time to think, you are going to worry. For a start all the treatments are new for you and we all fear the unknown. I'm not going to be able to help you with info about the mastectomy and how you might feel because I had a lumpectomy. Hopefully my reply will bring you back to the top of the discussion list and someone will soon give you the relevant facts you need.
I can tell you that however unpleasant the chemo and radiotherapy may be, it will pass. It was great news that your scans were clear so you will have an excellent chance of recovery. My own cancer has been clear nearly four years but I did need the op, the chemo and the radiotherapy.( no follow up pills as it was triple negative) to reach this point.
So I hope all goes well next Friday and hopefully you'll have a few more answers from the chatline, shortly.
Love Karen
hello good to hear from you, and brill news that your CT came back all clear.
I had a mastectomy in April and the waiting for it was far worse than having it done. I was surprised at how painless it was, most of my pain was from my back where they had taken the muscle for reconstruction, but my boob and under my arm caused hardly any pain and any i did have was soon eased with ibuprofen and paracetamol. I found it difficult to look at myself after the op, but eventually i did, what i would say is get use to it yourself first, don't rush yourself, and i'm sure your partner will just be glad you're still around and will love you just as much if not more than before. Have you spoke to him about your worries? You might find talking to him about it helps you both.
It is ok to cry sometimes, it's not good to keep it held in. If you're not sleeping well either that won't help with your emotions.
Big Hug for you xx
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