Feeling down

Hi ,

I used to have a husband, and yes I was tired and miserable all the time, I got rid of him and now I have lots of energy and I'm really happy   Ha ha ...no probably your husband is nicer than mine just doesn't understand how the whole breast cancer thin can knock your confidence.

My BC was  in 2015 and although I am happy , you never loose the fear of it returning and live knowing that everything can go wrong very easily. Try and do things that give you a boost, things you personally enjoy, not just things which the hubby likes. For example I like church and my pets not everyone's cup of tea but there will be things you like....go and do them. Meanwhile you are not alone, we all worry xxx

Owww I've had to reply following Snowys Mum reply.  You did make me chuckle and I hope it made you chuckle too .

I've had my other half go off on one tonight, saying he is 'trying so hard to for me, but... the way I am being he can't take much more'!!

Gobsmacked is my thoughts, errrr all because he wanted to do something hobby wise, whilst I wanted the patio door fixed!!  Now he has tried to turn this around that its the way I am he can't cope with - well, I tell you what, I think I have coped well and laughed a lot of it off - in truth this is all we can do.  I too was told by hubby that I am fine now! 

Its a horrible situation we are all in, it is always in the back of our minds, every little twing or ache, tonight I was thinking my boob felt hot on my arm, so my mind went into overdrive, then I'm trying to feel it the other side is the same (I think it is, however, my mind wants to take me on a worry ride, I am taking it for what it is, both boobs feel warm).  

Like Snowys Mum says, do things for you - no matter how small, make a start and 'do things for you' - it really does make a lot of difference.  I am trying to loose weight and I could so easily crumble and just eat everything in site - but, this time around I won't, I am doing this for me and not taking other peoples actions as my responsibility.

Offering you a big hug, remember you are normal to feel like this - just try hard to not give the thoughts too much of your time, they are not worth it, they will bring you done and you don't need this - you have done so very well and gone thought one of the hardest times of your life -be kind to yourself and take credit for how far you have come' xxx

Cazzy1310, so sorryyou feel like this. Have you got a good friend who understands ? The other thing I cling on to is that you can only change yourself , you can’t change others !? So it made me laugh when I read snoweys mums post ! I got rid of mine too ......years before BC ,and I rush to say that I still feel a bit guilty about this , but he was dragging me down , I honestly don’t know if I could have done BC treatment if I was still with him .

i go to lots of groups and have met so many great people in the last 10 years , but I had to put myself out there and “ try “ after a lifetime of anxiety and other problems....I go to a walking group that is basically a short walk and a long coffee ,mostly women , and 80% of them have some sort of medical problem ,or their hubby has. ( we are old ! ) and they talk a lot about how hard long term illness is to cope with . Of course you are not “ Ill) but the after effects of cancer are there , mentally and emotionally ......I hope you can find a way to move forward and enjoy every day ,you deserve it ,really you do . But think about telling your GP ??   Best wishes 

hope the patio doors are sorted what happened x

Hi Cazzy1310,

This did make me laugh!

Thank you for your kind words. Spoke to my oldest daughter she seems to listen to me. My thing is going down the beach letting the wind blow away my worries .