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Dear Emily, I am sorry to hear of your father’s diagnosis and that he has no treatment options. The most important thing now is to build a support network around him so he can maintain a good quality of life despite the circumstances. This can consist of family and friends, your district nurse, Macmillan nurses in the community and your local hospice, your dad can access all these things via his general practitioner.  Keeping life as normal as possible is important, he’s still your dad and spending quality time with him will help you and him cope. As a general rule men are not good at articulating their innermost feelings but it doesn’t mean they don’t exist, so don’t take any reluctance  from him to talk about his prognosis personally we all deal with our cancer in our own way, your job is just to be there for him when he needs you.

best wishes 

Jane 

Hi emilymargo and a warm welcome to the online community although I'm very sorry that you've had to find us.

It's natural that you'd want to support your dad with his bowel cancer diagnosis and in this community there are groups that you can join to help. The first one I'd recommend is the bowel cancer group where you can ask questions about treatment, etc and get support from other members who are dealing with this type of cancer. The second group is the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions.

To join these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the pages that open. You can then introduce yourself and post your question after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

When you have a minute it would be really useful if could pop something about your dad's journey into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

Sending a supportive (((hug)))

Hi Emily 

I'm in the same position,  my dad also has bowel cancer,  he has already  had surgery  three years ago, and had part if his bowel removed.   Last month, they found another  tumour,  and because  of compilations,  following  his last operation , they cant oper again.  

Hi Emily 

I'm in the same position,  my dad also has bowel cancer,  he has already  had surgery  three years ago, and had part if his bowel removed.   Last month, they found another  tumour,  and because  of compilations,  following  his last operation , they cant oper again.