Hello. I am new to this so please forgive me if I ramble on.My dad had a melanoma a few years ago and we have spent 3 years having moles removed as and when they have popped up.He was given immunotherapy until last July but they stopped it saying they wanted to keep some in case he ever really needed it again. We were confused but accepted their expertise. 3 weeks ago my dad was sent for a chest xray and within hours told he had several tumors on each lung. In such a short space he has gone from working (he is semi retired and has a little driving job) to now being bed bound.He has not eaten,lost so much weight and the nurses are injecting him every four hours. I need advise on how to come to terms with the inevitable because I am not coping.I am petrified when I go see him and I know he is scared which is breaking my heart. I'm not ready for this and he certainly isn't. No idea what to do so would really appreciate any advice. xx
Hi and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community but sorry that you needed to find us and I am especially sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and the challenges you are facing.
Although I had a different type of cancer a cancer diagnosis like this brings many questions, lots of confusion and stress on all the family but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey will help you navigate this rollercoaster.
The Community is organised into dedicated support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Lung, secondary cancer group, this will be a good place to connect with others navigating the support of a family member on the same type of cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. Then you can introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones) you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
Talking with others caring for family and friends will help a lot so do check out our Family and friends and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
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