Hello. My hubby has been living with prostate cancer for 6years, due to his bowel being burnt during radiotherapy he now has a colostomy bag. Then due to a missed DVT has lost his R. Leg. Now this week he has been diagnosed with the cancer has spread to his bones in his spine and ribs. He is in his late 60's. I am hoping this site will just be here for me as a sounding board for when I know things will get tougher. I never usually complain but I am worried how I will be able to manage, due to the fact I am also disabled with osteoarthritis and a prolapsed disc impinging on the sciatic nerve.
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that after living with prostate cancer for 6 years you've recently discovered that it has spread to your husband's bones. This must be an incredibly hard time for you both so I'm glad that you've reached out to this community for support.
As the community is divided up into groups I'm going to suggest that you join the prostate cancer and secondary bone cancer groups where you can ask questions and share experiences with others and also the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and emotions.
To join just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
So now I have a lump in my breast, hospital 23/12/20. Can things get any worse this year?
Oh , you and your husband don't do things by halves do you!
I'm going to add the breast cancer group for you to join now. This isn't because I think this is what your lump is but because you'll be able to connect with other women at the same stage as you.
How's your husband doing?
x
Hi. It seems as though its been a tough year all round. Thankyou for your reply and group recommendations. Hubby is due at Oncology on Thursday to discuss chemo and other treatments... Its been a long few weeks.
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for him on tomorrow.
It's going to be a long night! But Thankyou.
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