Hi, my Mum starts chemo treatment tomorrow for her lung cancer. Having gone through radiotherapy and pneumonia last September - November, she was doing really well, but follow up scans have shown that the cancer has now spread into her left lung and lymph glands. She's so far away in what must be such a frightening time for her - she's not always the most positive, and I am the one to gee her along normally (if thats even a phrase - Mum would say I shout!!). Luckily she has my Dad around with her, which is some comfort. And whilst I know I'm the bystander in this, its my Mum that's doing the fighting, my Mum with the pain, breathlessness and fears, selfishly I just want to stamp my feet, cry, get mad with the world, get in the car and hug her and tell her its all going to be OK.
So I thought I'd join the Macmillan Community, as they've been amazing helping me whilst I'm not able to physically be with Mum. Is there any particular group that would be the best to join? xx
Hi , welcome to the online community, I’m sorry to hear of your Mums diagnosis, I want to wish you both good luck for tomorrow. Both because it sounds like you will be thinking of her a lot wishing you could give her a hug, and your mum as in these strange times she will have to go in their alone. I’m thinking the groups will be the family and friends one, to get support from others who appreciate what your going through, I’ve put the l8nk in for you to click on,
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/discussions
and also you may want to join the group for your Mums cancer type, I’m just not sure if your saying she has lung cancer that has spread into her lymph nodes or wether she has a different cancer that has spread into her lungs and lymph nodes, so I’ve put both links below for you to decide.
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/lung-cancer/discussions
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/lung-secondary-cancer/
My daughters are far away from me to, one 240 miles away and the other in Japan, but hugs over a video chat are still wonderful and supportive. My eldest has had a virtual meal with us ever Sunday recently, s9 we can pretend we are together.
my last thought is it helps to complete your profile to there’s a few tips in the link below to help.
I hope a few of the links help.
Best wishes
Thank you for your help, and for the links. Also want to send a virtual hug to you too - I'm down south and my mum up north, so totally understand the distance aspect. It's another addition to what is an incredibly difficult time, thank you xx
Thank you , virtual hug greatfully received.
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