How do I come to terms with my mums terminal diagnosis?

Hello......

You must find the strength for both of you, you can do this and you will do this with all of your strength. I am so sorry to hear of your shocking news and devastating situation, it is not easy but as you travel this journey you will find the strength that you need. I know because I am on a very similar pathway with my beautiful mum who is also my best friend, she also has the cancer in the spine and other places - this journey is not easy at all, I know as do many many others. Try to be strong, you absolutely must be as strong as you possibly can......it is hard for me to explain to you, but as you go along this pathway you will find strength, you will begin to accept and you will survive - I will light a little candle for you...I wish you peace and harmony xx

Hi  and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum.

A terminal cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress, confusion and many questions on all the family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.

I see that you have found our very supportive Supporting Someone with Incurable Cancer group, this is a good place to open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.

Just follow the link I have created then go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab and set up your very own Discussion and introduce yourself to the group and ask your questions.

You may also find our Carers Only and Friends and Family groups to be good places where you can connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey but more importantly the carers care for each other.

You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.

We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’. section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.

Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.

When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.

All the very best ((hugs))