I'm sure between us we could write a book on what not to say to someone with a terminal diagnosis.
"We're all going to die"
"I could be hit by a bus tomorrow"
are fairly high on my list, along with "what's going to happen to your dog?" and "have you lost all the hair down below?" (why do you ask???)
My sister was very upset by something my cousin said to me yesterday, "we're all terminal"
We're all mortal. There's a huge difference between being mortal and being told that advanced metastatic cancer is progressing and likely to be the cause of your death in a matter of months.
We're all going to die but hopefully most of us will not be having treatment that makes us very sick, invasive tests and the constant threat of complications hanging over us.
Depending on your source the chances of being hit by a bus are 1 in 3.2 million.
We all appreciate that it's hard and sometimes impossible to say the right thing, and that sometimes people blurt, but some of these throw away comments that trivialise what we're experiencing should be gently put to rest.
We're all in the same storm, we are not in the same boat. xx
Lol, “you’re so brave” is the one that does my head in! What do you expect me to do? Sit in a corner quivering in terror until my time is up? The cat still wants his dinner and the bins still go out on a Monday! Of course I’m gonna live as best a life as I can! Doesn’t make me brave! I didn’t get introduced to an adversary and I wasn’t given an option to take him/her on, I have no choice but to live with the beastie and make the best of it! And as for the speeding Bus of Instant Death - I was unaware that a terminal/incurable cancer diagnosis was an automatic exemption from being hit by said Bus? I have to admit to being a “hit by a bus tomorrow” lifetime advocate but really? I feel that I’m even more likely to be hit by the Deadly Death Bus because my eyesight as well as my ability to run away have been severely compromised by my illness and the toxins I’ve had to endure because of it so I’m even more likely to be hit by the bl***dy Bus on top of everything else! 
Hello everyone, I’ve decided it’s probably finally time to join the “incorrigibles” after my “terminal” diagnosis August 2019. I hope I’ve not offended anyone. I’m severely honest and particularly bad at “pussy footing” but hope for understanding and acceptance. A couple of weeks in the “naughty corner” will probably do me good, though, if I’m a bit too much to cope with for starters xx
That’s why I’ve been quiet 
