Facing the inevitable as a couple

Hi RicardoB 

welcome to the group but sorry you find yourself here. In this group you will find lots of people with all different types of cancer, but all of us here are living with an incurable diagnosis. It would be helpful if we knew more about your situation. What type of cancer, how long you have known about the diagnosis, what treatments etc you have been on. 

It really is a scary situation to be told you are incurable, but there are lots of treatments available to prolong life and help with living with the disease. Having the support of a loved one, or family and friends is very important to help with this process, but sometimes we find it hard to talk to the ones we love. Here you will find the people who truly understand what you are going through. It is tough, but the support you will gain here will help you through. 

We are awaiting a final diagnosis with possible suggestions for palliative care and have know for around a month. At the moment I am getting used to balancing pain with functioning and carrying on as normal as possible. We know it has spread extensively from lungs to lymph nodes and into the spine and possibly ribs as well and even though the first major symptoms only emerged 4 weeks ago it has the familiarity of an old acquaintance. I am in hospital just now establishing a pain management routine and awaiting a move to a rehab unit. I am still working (as a psychotherapist) and this provides an anchor without which I might float off into despair. My wife and I have made a vow not to become despondent and so far it is working ...

Hi RicardoB 

palliative care can mean treatment to manage pain and also keep the cancer stable. So although there may not be a cure, palliative treatment can manage the cancer for some time. 
It sounds like you are in the right place at the moment for pain and rehab. It is great to hear you are still working, we need distractions to busy our minds for sure.