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Hello, Tatties and welcome to a great place for support, though its a pity you need it of course. Have you tried the 'tags' on the left of your screen, for 'ovarian', it will show you threads in use for that, which I'm sure you could join and be welcomed onto! It might also help if you fill imn a short profile and open it to view too, helps stop the need to repeat yourself! I wonder if sheer worry might be partly responsible for the problems you are talking about too? That can be so unpleasant and make you feel yukky too, poor you! Do keep posting, it does help.......my best wishes

Hi Moomy

Thanks for the guide.

Strangely enough I feel better already! What an amazing place!

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hi

I'm not sure what to expect from this site, with any luck maybe it will give me answers to my questions, or some moral support from people in a similar situation.

In the last week i have had a lot to take in. It began with a call to my dad to wish him a happy birthday, which turned into some bad news, he had been to his doctor with symptoms which rang alarm bells with me, since i'm in the health care field. His news was that an xray had shown a 12cm shadow on his lung. Yesterday he had an appointment for a broncoscopy and biopsy, where the consultant informed him that the ct scan he had the week before had also shown cancer in his liver and bones (although i thought a pet scan was required for diagnosis).

As yet he hasn't seen the oncology doctor, that will happen next week when he gets the biopsy results back, so at the moment we do not have a prognosis, but he seems to think he wont see out the year, and says that if the treatment is going to be dibilitating, he doesnt want treatment.

As yet i am still a little numb, and it doesnt help matters that my partners father passed away suddenly and has the funeral tomorrow, so i'm struggling to keep it together so help him through this difficult time, and why i am currently looking for support from here.

ems

Oh, Ems, a double whammy for you, i am so sorry.........but the support on this site will help you, I hope....and help you in turn to continue to help your Dad. At least 'they' are working fast to hopefully give him specific treatment to help big time.

Try the 'tags' for lung , on the left of your screen , it will show you threads currently in use which you can join in, and I'm sure you will be welcomed......do keep posting.....

Hi everyone, I can't believe I'm joining another support group. 2 years ago I lost my beautiful mum to alzehiemers and now my father in law has been diagnosed with bowel cancer. He is an amazing man and has been a fantastic support for me since I first met him. He seems to have been diagnosed late, they can't operate, it has spread to his liver and a few nodules in his lungs. He has had his first bout of chemo, but has been very sick with it and still is, just in time for his next lot. I don't know what is normal and am trying to promote all the positives to my husband who is understandably devastated. We have 3 children who completely adore him and are unaware of the situation. Unfortunately we have a holiday booked for 2 weeks time, we have waited a long 2 years for this holiday we were on holiday when my mum died). It may sound completely trivial but we can't decide if we should cancel it or not. my father in law will probably not see Christmas. We need it as a family, but is that callous, leaving everyone behind and would my husband settle to enjoy it?

Does anyone know the kind of development of this disease, what are the end stage symptoms? What should we do to help my father in law, who appears to have given up and stays in bed most of the time?

Any help would be most appreciated.

Hi, I'm new today.... not sure where to start really... any suggestions? XXX

dear neely, im so sorry you find yourself here, on this site, but im glad your here, but not for the reason you are! there are lots of good people on site, ready to help and support you in any way they can. my advice to you, is to have your holiday, it might do you all some good, and we all need to take a holiday, sometime or another. things happen in life, wheather we are on holiday or not, its fete, whatever happens, your fil would want you to go away, you can still keep in contact, even away abroad. as for asking about the development of the disease, everyone is different, no one goes through exactly the same symptoms, go to the cancer backup site, at the top right of the page, type in the relevant cancer, it will take you to pages where it will give you some info, about the progress etc, or go to the left hand side of the page click on cancer types it will take you to others in a similar situation. good luck with your search. my heart goes out to your family, love jackie x

dear jay62 purple, hello! you could start by telling us a little bit about your problems, you will then get replies, jackie (dont be scared were all here for the same thing) its good to chat.

Hi,

I am not sure of where to write or who to write to except that I feel that I need to let go somehow...hoping that this post helps me to feel better. I right now feel that my situation is desperate in the sense that I am completely lost. I have never talk about my inner feelings to anyone outside my family & boyfriend but I have reached the stage where I cant go on anymore.
My mother has got a brain tumour (glyoma grade 3) for which she was first operated in 2005, the year I graduated from my first degree. She was then fine but 2 years later had a relapse and was given a first chemo (PVC). Then she was fine again and had another relapse about 1 year later where she found herself enable to walk. As an only child, all the weight for her care was on my father and I and we managed to take her to her radiotherapy sessions. She got better....travelled, went on holiday, started to get her life back and then relapsed again in 2008 where she was given yet another chemo and had to get a shunt...things were improving. I started my Master but now since May 09 we find ourselves with what was pretty much explained as the last option in terms of treatment as the chemo she started in september 09 which was meant to go for one year just suddenly ceased to be working in the space of 1 month when my mum's situation rapidly deteriorated.

I am aware that this is long post but I dont think one can understand my feelings without getting an idea of the rollercoaster that my dad and I have been going through in terms of hoping and getting overjoyed with my mum getting better matched by an even worse down when things go really bad as there are now. My mum is currently in agonising pain due to headaches that steroids and paracetamol cannot control. Everyday is a struggle for me to stay positive and strong, not crying and try to remain focus on my dissertation. I am at a point in my life where it seems that i lost hope, yet I cant accept that this may be the end. I dont want my mum to got yet, I am 25 and still need to graduate for my Master and get married and create grandchildren for her....it feels like my rational side is telling me that this is it and yet my emotional side is hoping endlessly leaving me enable to function and get on with my life as I am constantly crying in fear of losing my mum which I love beyond what words can explain...can someone help? how? ... I am just so lost and confused and dont know if I should sacrifice my life and leave my boyfriend, studies and job prospect to be with her ..... sorry but I just had to let go. this is very out of character for me as throughout my ordeal I never cried for help. I guess that I am only human.