Hi all.

Hi quartz30 

I haven’t seen you post in a while, so I had no idea you’d had 2 surgeries-I hope you’re recovering ok. I’ve had bad dreams and very vivid dreams sometimes after surgery, but nothing that persisted, and I hope you’ll find that they go in time. I think it’s just the unconscious mind dealing with what you’ve gone through and processing it but that’s just my view! 

Sarah xx

Hey sarah. 

Ye i kinda shut off for a while to be honest. I hope you are doing well. 

I went in on the 23rd for radical hysterectomy with lymph node removal and ovaries. But there was an issue a few days later an I ended up with surgery to sort my bowls out too. Turned out they was stuck together and infected. Got home yesterday. 

Aww im sorry you had the nightmares too. Hopefully mine pass then. It prob dont help I'm terrified of having the staples removed lol. 

Quartz 30 xx

Oh gosh..you’ve had a lot to deal with. I was very nervous about having staples removed (I had 25 each time in my surgeries) and I couldn’t even look at them coming out. But I literally never felt a thing, except for one staple one time which nipped a little bit. It was way easier than I had imagined, and it all felt much better when they were out. 

How are you getting on now? Are you feeling better physically? You need to take things easy and take time to get over everything. I just had occasional bad dreams, nothing long term but I think it’s natural when we’ve been through difficult experiences. 

Sarah xx

Ye its been a lot in a short space really. 

Ah that's good to hear. Its the fear of the not knowing isnt it. Best to hear from others who have been there. 

The nurse told me taking the drain out wouldn't hurt. I definitely disagree after experiencing it. 

I'm stuck in my room mostly at min. Closest place to the loo haha. Both legs are swollen so get tired quickly but I feel much better being home. My son has been fantastic bless him. 

Mad what our brains do to cope with things isn't it. Hopefully the bad dreams stop soon. I could do with a full sleep really. 

How was your friend staying over? 

Quartz 30 xx

I had an abdominal drain after my gallbladder surgery, but I didn’t feel it coming out as the nurse was so quick, so I’m sorry your drain removal was uncomfortable. It makes you nervous about having something else being done. 

It’s lovely to get back to your own bed after a hospital stay-hopefully you will be able to sleep much better there now you’re settled and you won’t keep having the nightmares. It’s good to hear your getting help from your son-you need that as you recover.

I didn’t know how my staples would be removed, but it was just done with a little device similar to what is used when you remove staples from paper! The thought was much worse than the reality.

I had a lovely time with my friend thank you. We had a great week together and lots of laughs and non stop chatting! It was a real boost to spend time together. it’s hard not being able to see her very often.

Sarah xx

Aww im glad yours wasn't a bad experience. I said lots of words not bad but foods lol. 

I do feel more relaxed about them now after talking to you. Thank you. I think I will heal quicker etc once there out. Less to worry about lol.

Got to ring the lymphoedema specialist today too. Definitely hun. I'd be so lost without him. 

Aww im happy to hear that. I remember how excited you was to have her visit. Cant beat a decent laugh with someone close. Shame she's so far but I guess it makes the time you do get together even more special. Hopefully you will catch up again sooner. 

Quartz 30 xx

I hope you get good support from the lymphoedema specialist-I’ve not suffered from it so don’t have any experience, but I know there are ladies in the cervical group who have been dealing with it, so if you need any advice there I’m sure they would be happy to help. 

Try to relax as best you can when you’re getting the staples out-it should be over quickly and that’s another thing off your list of things to be done. 

Pity the nice weather didn’t last very long! I’m feeling quite chilly today so I need to get on doing some jobs to warm me up! Hopefully we’ll get up to Scotland to visit my friend in the Summer and visit family at the same time. It’s such a long journey though.

Sarah xx

Thank you . Brilliant i will ask if I need to in there hun. 

I will do my best too. I'm not sure when there taking them out yet. Hopefully soon. 

Bless ya. Hopefully its back soon. Get yourself warm. Oh that would be amazing. Scotland is a beautiful place aint it. Fingers crossed you get to go. It is a long journey. I'm sure it would be worth it though. 

Quartz 30 xx 

Hey sarah.

I've been told I don't need anymore cancer treatment which is great. Strange thing is I feel like a fraud or something lol. I dont know how to explain it or why I feel that way. 

This is my second week recovering at home. No one has been to see me. My daughter still isn't speaking to me and I guess I feel a little alone and unimportant. Hope things are good with you. 

Quartz 30 xx

Hi quartz30 

That’s really good news, and please don’t ever feel like a fraud-you’ve had cancer and surgery, and that’s a lot!

I hope your recovery is going well, but I’m sorry things have not improved with your daughter-that’s sad, but remember, it’s not your fault. I hope she’ll come round in time. 

You may want to make a post with your good news in the cervical cancer group, as this is a general cancer discussion group so not as many people may see your post here. It’s always good to post positive news- it’s encouraging for others going through the same thing. 

I’m ok thank you, and delighted to read that you don’t need any further treatment.

Sarah xx