Support/Help for me, to cope

Hi there

so sorry to hear about your father in law and your friend. It is so hard to keep everything together and be strong for the person with cancer, I am trying to be strong for my husband who was diagnosed 5 weeks ago with stage 4 pancreatic and lung cancer. I would also like someone to help me cope too. People say keep strong and look after yourself but it’s so hard watching people you love fade away. Take care and I really hope you take care of yourself too .

Hey! Oh no I’m so sorry  

It is so hard to be strong and be a rock when your world is collapsing around you. 

Im hoping I can find an external source or support to keep me going and be strong for them. 

I really am not sure how to use this forum, it just helps to know there’s other people who understand, at the moment my husband has only had his first chemotherapy and then got a lung infection and has been in hospital since then, this the 10th day now. He has been on a chest drain since the first day he came in, he has lost 3 and a Kahn stone in 4 weeks, it’s so hard seeing him like this, but I go to the hospital every day and stay there for 9 hours, I’m always worried in case I’m not there and they tell him some important updates and he forgets what they have said, at the moment he can’t take much in. Hope you are ok hun, 

Hugs. 

I am still really unsure on how to use this forum.

Hi Kacie, I'm new to this as well. My husband has advanced prostate cancer and had just started his 2nd set of a new chemo as the first chemo was starting to lose its effectiveness. Unfortunately, he's developed severe pain and nausea and was admitted with infections. He was in hospital for nearly 5 weeks and is out now with syringe driver to control pain and nausea. He has just started to eat again and we're hoping that he'll stay free of infection so that they can restart the new chemo that he started 7weeks ago. Like you I was spending my time visiting and trying to make sure I was about to hear what doctors were saying. The whole situation is emotionally draining watching someone you love in pain. But I'm trying to be positive and hope that this new chemo attacks the disease and stops it advancing. It encourages me to hear others are going through similar stuff and it's ok to say that it's really hard. thank you for listening to me. I hope your husband is starting to respond to hospital treatment. 

I didn't realise how exhausting it is. How ones emotions can drain you of all energy. We are hoping the chemo slows down the inoperable cancer . The anti sickness tablets worked but we didn't realise how aggressive the treatment is. You go through a whole range of emotions every day. Im finding it hard to balance his needs and my needs . Its hard.