Hello,
I am slowly breaking down and struggling mentally to keep myself together. Where can I go to talk to someone or tricks to help myself?
October 2025 my father in law was diagnosed with grade 4 glioma in the brain. Then 3 months later, a friend of me and my husbands has been diagnosed with kidney cancer. Our friend really isn’t doing great, within months he’s in hospital going through chemo, unable to operate and now he’s surviving on a tpn.
Our friend doesn’t want visitors, or anyone to help, he’s keeping to himself, but I feel so helpless just watching him slip away in photos. I am really really struggling.
Just now releasing I should seek help, I can’t help anyone if I’m falling.
Thank you in advance.
Hi there
so sorry to hear about your father in law and your friend. It is so hard to keep everything together and be strong for the person with cancer, I am trying to be strong for my husband who was diagnosed 5 weeks ago with stage 4 pancreatic and lung cancer. I would also like someone to help me cope too. People say keep strong and look after yourself but it’s so hard watching people you love fade away. Take care and I really hope you take care of yourself too .
Hey! Oh no I’m so sorry
It is so hard to be strong and be a rock when your world is collapsing around you.
Im hoping I can find an external source or support to keep me going and be strong for them.
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
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