Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. Â I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Â Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. Â My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. Â I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. Â My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. Â She had a major strop. Â I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. Â I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Â Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. Â But I feel even worse now. Â I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. Â I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.Â
Am sorry Maisiemae. Â It is so frightening.Â
Your Mum and you. Â
All my words are rubbish....
Jx
Maisiemae,
Don't be. When my Mum was ready to go back in May & I wasn't going to Canada to see her & my family people said that they hoped she'd hang on till I got there mid June. I said I didn't want her to, she & I had spoken the week before she died, & we told each other how much we loved one another. She went when SHE was ready, not to someone elses timetable. Although she did wait till I got back from Mallorca. She knew what time our flight back was, & she passed about 3 hours after we got indoors.
The same with Alan. I knew that when I kissed him goodbye on that Saturday night that I wouldn't see him again. Maybe that's why it didn't bother me about going to his cremation. We'd said our goodbyes while it counted. He died knowing I loved him, that it was ok to let go, that I'd be ok.
I know how hard it is to let someone you love leave your physical life, but in remembering all our loved ones, especially our Mums, I think we're keeping them alive, in our hearts.Â
I used to say to people that our family is used to living apart, there were naval connection on both sides of the family, but it doesn't mean we don't love each other any less for it.Â
I send you, & Jennie, & Elenium, & anyone else in our little band Huggies & Headbomps
Sue
Xx
Maisiemae,
So am I for when my turn comes with my husband, which will be soon.
You will be okay once you get to your mums, you will know what to do for her and I think
That The journey to get to her leaves you the time for your mind to run riot.Â
As jcb says, words are so rubbish at this time. Holding your hand. Â you have support from your partner, dogs and of course everyone here.
Lesley. Xx
Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.
Oh Maisiemae. All I can say is we are here for you. I will be thinking of you and your mum and am sending you both lots of love and hugs. X
Elenium
Hope you got there safe Maisiemae.
Try to look after yourself too. At least drink a bit if eating not possible.Â
Jx
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