Hello,
I know the title may sound a bit dramatic. I'm writing this at a very low moment. My mum has been taking anastrozole for a while now, it suppresses all oestrogen. Before I go on, I want to make it clear how grateful I am that she gets to be on this medication that is helping to save her life. I would not change it.
But I need help. My mum isn't the same person she was. There was a very obvious change and she has even acknowledged that she feels different because of it. Her personality has completely shifted and I am broken hearted. We've gone from being best friends to feeling like I'm someone she barely tolerates.
Does it ever get better? I feel like I'm losing her in a whole new way and I'm broken hearted.
Please know I am so grateful for everything she's had that's enabled her to still be here. I don't want to sound ungrateful. Im just struggling with how much she's changed and how my funny kind caring thoughtful mum is fading away.
I don't know how to help her. She gets so angry if I suggest she should get help from the GP. I don't know what to do.
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