Having a bad day

Initially sent my reply by email. .oops losing plot

Lovely, great news x

Do you know what, it's a shame that you can't collate everything that your family has said as a reason given to you  for not being able to care for their mum and then bind it in a book to give them for Christmas, if you had the time and energy of course to spare from caring for your mum.

I don't know what else you can do, they are pathetic, selfish and beyond belief. I am so sorry for both you  and your mum, not that it helps, she sounds such an amazing lady, as are you.

Xx

I'm sick of the word "might"...jx

It must be the weather, or the stars, it the time if year, but we're all having hassle where STOOPID family members are concerned!! 

I've spent the past 2 days chasing my tail & getting absolutely NOWHERE!!! 

I texted Alan's wimpy son Tuesday to give me a call re the Deed of Renunciation on Alan's will. He called me that night. Not as much as a How are you Susie, miss my arse, Nothing!! Not so much as a Sorry I'm too wimpy to deal with Alan's will (he never calls him Dad)!! When I said it would cost £100 + VAT you know what he said?? I presume that will come out of the estate!!! Talk about spitting feathers!! 

So, yesterday I had a doctor's appointment followed by the solicitors to get this blasted deed done! I can't contact the banks etc till that's done! 

Alan's brother brought my car back Saturday, but said I'd need to take it back as the engine management light had come on. So, today I get in it, could tell it wasn't right, & a couple of miles into my journey across the city it died!! Poor little thing. Rang brother, no van today to collect me. Rang RAC. Came in time frame given. I start the car. It bloody well runs fine!!! Si, RAC man followed me to Steve's. No problems on the way. Chatted about family paperwork & will. Had to the

Aarrgghh!! Had 3/4s finished writing a post & it got lost!!! Just like the last 2 days of my life!! 

Alan's wimpy son, the will, my car, Alan's flat!! If I wasn't going to anyway I'd definitely be cancelling Christmas!!

I came to bed at 5.30pm. It was that or the world & I were going to have a serious falling out!! 

I woke up crying again last night. I miss Alan, & I know that if he was still here he'd be hugging me, making me a cuppa & making sure I was ok. Instead, apart from his brother the rest of his family haven't even sent as much as a text to see how I am. Pigs!! All of them!! I've had more compassion from relative strangers than I've had from them.

But, all this crap doesn't take away from the fact that you & your Mum's are all going through hell at the moment. 

I feel for you all. I wish I could come & put my arms round you all & stay the night with each of you, so if nothing else you could get some rest without worrying about Arsehole family!!!

So, Huge Hugs from me & my kitties to all of you.

Let's hope tomorrow brings a better day for all of us

Sue 

Xx

Night night hugger x

Me too, i might scream if i hear might again. I might.... Why doesnt someone just have balls and say 'i dont want to' because that to me = might!!!

Hello Sue,

Hope you don't mind me posting, but I have been following all your journeys, and they have all struck a chord with me. When a loved one has passed the organisation of everything can be just as stressful, as you have found with your difficult family. At these times peoples true colours often come out. I nursed my Mum till the end, with my Dad and a lot of other help. My Dad made me sort all her stuff out before she died, which was amazingly difficult. We also arranged the Funeral, before she died. After her death, he then insisted on doing all final arrangements for Funeral himself. Consequently he got the hymns all wrong ( we had agreed beforehand ), and the woman the vicar talked about was nothing like my Mum! Also, Dad wasn't there when she passed, he had gone out to pay a bill! There is no doubt he loved her dearly, and still misses her badly, 10years later. I think what I am trying to say, is everyone reacts differently in times of stress. However in your situation I can understand your anger and frustration, while dealing with your grief. Sending you strength. I am sorry I have gone on, don't know where that came from.

Take care, Anneteresa