Having a bad day

Elenium sorry our posts crossed. 

I want to hear the carols too!

That's a lot of travelling after work you must feel v drained. 

Elenium what sort of knickers are they? Mum insisting on Always discreet.   The hospice may arrange them maybe? Carers only have giant pads. 

Hug to all.

Jx

I just want to protect mum as much as possible.  I know she's a grown up but she's so down I just think that she doesn't need any extra worry.  Of course if there was something wrong we would have told her, but why worry her unnecessarily? I don't think my brothers and sister are trying to ease their worry, because I don't actually think they are worried for my sister.  Not one of them has asked her how she is or in fact said anything to her at all apart from 'we can't come and be with mum while you have your hospital appointment'.

I think getting the Salvation Army there to sing carols is such a wonderful idea.  I wish me and mum could be there too. 

I wish we could all help each other too.  Like you say at least we know that everything would be done properly.  It would be nice for our mums to have each other to talk to too. I wish I could be there to hold your hand maisiemae.

I'm not sure what you should do about your dad's letter,, but I do understand why you opened it.

Jenny, the knickers we have at the moment are called Euron mobi.  The nurse gave mum these to tide her over until the order came through.  I'll let you know if the others are different.  Mum says there are quite comfortable.

I've just realised that I've been trying to type this for the last hour but my daughter keeps stopping me.  I think I'm going to bed now. Night all.

Hugs all round. X

Night all jx

Dear Maisiemae

I've just read about your dad's letter. I would like to say that I feel very strongly that you should explain to your mother why you opened it (if you need to, it sounds as if you are so close that she will understand anyway) and if it is an expression of remorse, you should give her the chance to forgive him.

Forgiveness is a great healer, not just to the penitent, but to the person who forgives, it is a way of setting aside resentment and suffering, and it calms the heart.

In spite of your sorrow and all your tribulations, I envy you the closeness of your bond with your mother, and the nobility of heart which gives you the strength to care for her so excellently.

I hope you both have the best Christmas you can

Kind regards

Niobe 

830 tonight will be singing silent night. If i could get mum in stairlift and wrap her up she might be able to see the band. We shall see.she is so much weaker than a week ago and v down this morning. She is ready. She really has had enough. X

Niobe. Ive cried, thankyou. Ive been numb since arriving last night. Thankyou for yr reassuring words. Actually on the drive up last night i kept thinking about my post about the little card i opened and felt vulnerable to judgement - truth is im so trusted by anyone who knows me its like ive betrayed someone. Only my own fiercely strong moral thermometer. Above all i think i wanted to see what it says, i want mum to still love dad. Some very awful things happened in my childhood - she may not b able to forgive as he betrayed her so badly. Its my need not theirs.  Its not a mills and boon book - oh i wish as dobt they end up happy ever after? We shall see. Thankyou xxx

Maisiemae, my heart breaks for you. I am so sad today and I just want to come and give you hug. Our mum's are tough. I'm amazed they haven't given in long ago but I think that giving up is just not in them. I am really struggling today and wish I could be with you all.

Hugs. X

Agree Elenium they're made of stronger stuff than me!

Maisiemae. ..you were trying to protect your mum am sure. Be kind to yourself your Mum wouldn't want you to be anything other than kind to you.

Jx

Let us know how tonight goes.

Jx