Having a bad day

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Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. She had a major strop. I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. But I feel even worse now. I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.

FormerMember over 8 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Well, he's on the floor YET AGAIN as he didn't get my attention!! I've told him to get back on the bed or I call 999 yet again!!!! He's wearing Tens Pants & there's a commode in the bedroom. I'm loathing myself right now but it's the only way!! The bedtime carers aren't allowed to lift him. I'm a Horrible Horrible person!!!

maisiemae over 8 years ago in reply to FormerMember

For your own sanity please dial 999 and walk out of the room and let them in. You are not being heard by the people who need to listen! You are at breaking point and im sure Alan is acting out something as well as being terribly ill. If he is safe on the floor and warm give him a blanket and go outside away. You have hit a wall. Make yourself safe and handover care to the services im quite sure will be on offer. Please act with your feet lovely lady and walk away for respite x

Always Remember the Precious Moments x

FormerMember over 8 years ago in reply to maisiemae

Thinking of you shopgood!

FormerMember over 8 years ago in reply to maisiemae

Waiting for the Ambulance. He's covered up & I'm watching to make sure he doesn't pass out.

Sorry Ladies, but if I don't let it out they'll be taking me in. where wouldhe be then.

Hugs xx

maisiemae over 8 years ago in reply to FormerMember

no apologies necessary, you are under the most ridiculous amount of stress on top of sleep deprivation. Alan is very poorly, you love him but he is pushing buttons in you. You are doing the right thing of course on this occasion insisting on an ambulance, they can care for him well, in some ways you may be better saying to Alan how much you love him and leaving for the duration of the ambulance crew are there, this way they are most likely to take him in and make him more comfortable for a period enough for you to recharge your batteries. The care is for both the loved one and the loved, as we all know the disease effects beyond the poorly person. Thank goodness you scream on here.

Always Remember the Precious Moments x

Elenium over 8 years ago in reply to maisiemae

Sue,

Sending you hugs. Thinking of you both. As maisiemae says, no apologies necessary. We all understand and are here for you.

Elenium

Elenium over 8 years ago in reply to maisiemae

maisiemae, that's wonderful about your mum. How lovely that she rang you. That really was a precious moment. :-)

Elenium

Elenium over 8 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Jenny, hope you're home and getting some rest. Sending you hugs.

Elenium

FormerMember over 8 years ago in reply to Elenium

7am and all still in bed hooray. (And they are still with us..anyone else peer around bedroom door wondering if they're still here?).

My body aches but I slept.

Hope today uneventful.

For all!

Sue how's things?

Elenium over 8 years ago in reply to FormerMember

I wonder too Jenny, every time I come round mum's.

Glad you managed to sleep.

Mum didn't have a good night - backwards and forwards to the loo all night. She's a bit better this morning and when I suggested her friend come round she agreed. She's not wanted any visitors, apart from us, for weeks. I've done her hair too. :-)

Hope everyone is ok.

Elenium

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