Having a bad day

Hair done and perfume or make up whatever is more normal always help.  On a very bad day just washing your face helps.

Mum v v weak today can only get her in chair next to bed no shower. She didn't faint though.

My aunt so much in denial. Said can't mum take iron supplement ......thinks anaemia about nutrition for mum!

Hi Girls,

I "persuaded" Alan to go in the ambulance to A&E last night. I said that if he didn't go I would leave him on his own all night & go & sleep at his place. Felt awful but needs must. Ambulance service called me back to say they were badly stacked up in Coventry. They arrived about 10. I followed in the car. There were 12 ambulances waiting!! Even the staff said it was a bad night. God knows what would've happened if there'd been a major incident on the M6!! We finally saw a doctor at 7am this morning. He got Alan on a drip & they were trying to find a bed. I left at 8.15 got indoors at 9am. Only 10 miles but it was rush hour so had been up 25 hours. Had a cuppa & food, fed the cats, took my meds & came to bed. Community Nurse came not knowing any of this. Just had another cuppa & resting. I left message for the Macmillan nurse at the hospital so she can find out how & where he is & to call me later.

Community Nurse asked if I wanted him back here & I said no, that I can't cope anymore.

So we wait and see. A referrals gone to Myton Hospice initially on a Respite session while he's not eating & got an infection. I'm hoping they can have him for longer for him & my sanity.

I don't know what I would've done without your support. Thank You xxx

Sue, you did the right thing.  It's too much for you on your own. I hope they can sort something out so you can have a break and get some rest.

Sending you hugs.

Mum's not so good this afternoon.  She's got a lot of pain but does keeping dozing off.  She was doing so well this morning.

Oh Sweetheart, sorry to hear that about your Mum. I hope she can have a better night tonight. 

I've just had boiled eggs & soldiers followed by chocolate mousse. Thought I could do with some protein.

Am going to bed soon to read for a bit & sleep.

I called the hospital about 4pm. He's on a ward & the doctor was with him. I left him a message & was asked to call tomorrow after 10.30am for an update. 

So hopefully he's in the right place bless him.

It darn near broke my heart to see how distressed he was getting when the doctor was trying to put a canula in.

Hope you can all get some sleep, take care 

Xxx

Thanks Sue, I hope so too.

Alan is in the right place.  It's best for both of you.

I hope you can get some rest.

:-)

So today my brother has said that he can't come to mum's next week.  No reason, just can't come.  My sister, who doesn't work, has made it clear that she won't be going round.  Nohing from my other brother.  My other sister asked if perhaps he could swap his day and his response was "It's my day off there's no other day to swap to".  I'm tempted to say "that's what annual leave is for..." or maybe "I know, let's just leave mum on her own all day then.  It doesn't matter that she won't be able to make herself anything to eat or that's she'll be really miserable.  As long as you're OK that's fine."  Is it a bloke thing?  Let's just present the problem without any thought of a solution.  Let's just make it everyone elses problem.

That'll be me sorting it out then.

I want to scream and shout and swear and hit and kick.  So bloody selfish!!!!!!!!!

Oh scream and scream - i totally understand!!! My brother has work at weekends now - does a 2 hr visit and hes off, sister cant visit in week so maybe weekend but no she has arrangements, errr with mums grand daughter and great grand daughter! So im going from tomorrow til sat pm. Why are we so flexible, actually how can they enjoy themselves not with mother... Wait, i know, because they know we pick up their f****g slack. With you on it. They care but not quite enough as us. How can we ever b the same with siblings again and oh btw brother didnt see mum for 9 years! Sis live abroad for nearly the same so, who did everything in the interim, ME, yet we are loved equally, frankly we should be loved that little but more! Called mum at hospital and she had a visitor, cant get her now as she is prob saving that to give me new list of chores for my 8 hour round trip tomorrow. Elenium 1 2 3 scream. Although to be fair i love love spending time with mum esp is hospital as im not in chargr, hospital are.  X

His all.

Sorry been off a while rather non stop as mum so weak. She couldn't even squeaze ketchup bottle.

Been reading posts though...

Shopgood you Def did the right thing. 

Shopgood and Maisiemae the relatives KNOW you'll be there and probably your mum's will call you first...not bloody fair.

I wonder if their other halves are a poor influence as my sister much better since she dumped idiot boyfriend. Still me 90% of time though.

My aunt annoyed me with a suggestion I get nice treats for mum...thanks....she'd like a tea with her sister and a chat.. . COME AND SEE HER AND MAKE A CUPPA. 

I have this weekend off. Been utterly draining week so no plans.

The good news....I got mum with huge difficulty to the hospice she had aromatherapy at the hospice.  She's since consumed cake chocolate sandwich egg and new potatoes. ...not all at once. Is watching TV and got on commode herself.  It's like magic.  It doesn't last but it is magic.

Hug's and screams.

Jx

Meant Elenium and Maisiemae!