Feeling Lonely - Where do you turn and who can you talk to when you are now 'well'?

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Not sure why I am so sad and feel so alone but I find that now I have had the all clear and an slowly getting back to doing more things after surgery, despite still being in a lot of pain some days, people have left.

I wasnt inundated with messages when I was diagnosed or during my surgery and immediate recovery but people did check in. Now I seem to have been forgotten.

My family just tell me well you are cured now and when I am down I just get told not to be sad.  I have nothing to be sad about. 

But I live with the scars and the pain every day still wondering why it happened to me and what I did wrong to deserve it. 

I know people have it so much worse than me and survivors guilt is real when you know others have not been so successful in their fight. Which I guess is why it feels so lonely. 

Where do you turn and who can you talk to when you are now 'well'?

Sorry for such a negative post but I don't really know where to release my feelings.  

Thank you for listening x

  • Hi  i was diagnosed with cancer a little over  three years ago and Macmillan offered talking therapies which can accessed via your nurse specialist or GP.   I think there is also another online forum called life after cancer.  Best wishes for your continuing recovery.  

  • Hi  .

    You could call the Macmillan Support Line open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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