We have been living with cancer for 5 years now. Last August hubby had major surgery which we were told would take about 3 weeks in hospital and year to recover if there were no complications. Ever the optimist, we can do this. I would take some time off work then go back leaving hubby pottering around at home. 10 months later,various complications and surgical wounds have not healed. Mobility very poor. Now work has been great and allowed me to drop my hours but I am still trying to fit in all my work into the reduced hours so standards are going down . The plan was to get hubby out for a walk when I get home at 5 but he is too tired. On my day off we plan to go out but then weather is poor so we don't go(He can't regulate body temp very well) then next day brilliant sunshine but I have to go to work.
So, I am thinking I need to retire, it would be 2 years early. My practical side says we can do this but it seems so final. Almost accepting defeat and very frightening. I feel I have held our lives together but I can't keep on at this pace
Have any of you found yourselves in this position? Sorry for this very long post. Thanks for reading
