Your mum should have a care plan ready to start once she is home. It could be for two up to six weeks depending on which area of the country she is in. During this time you can find out what care your mum needs at home. Hospice care, GP should visit her early next week, and Adult care and health team, previously known as social services should be called. You will probably have to call them. If your mum is eligible for help with the cost of care the adult care and health team should advise her . She/you can decide to arrange care providers and to pay by asking adult care etc,. to let you/ your mum do direct payment. This avoids having to pay brokerage fees. Please don’t take on any responsibility for your mum that you really don’t want to or feel able to. If you make yourself too available it is easy for care agencies to leave it to you. Your mum is your mum, and you are not responsible for her health and welfare. You are her daughter. The State will look after her or if she has disposable money she will have to pay for care. You have a life of your own to live. Times will be tough but try not to get drawn in to a situation that you have no control over.
