I’m at a loss about how to deal with Mum now constantly telling me she wants to die. I just end up crying, which makes things worse because she feels she’s being a burden. Just now, I took her a hot water bottle and I reminded her that she’d only managed to have a smoothie today and she snapped at me and said ‘let me die’.
She’s not really in physical pain - not like some of the poor people whose conditions are described in this forum - but the utter hopelessness and depression is stark.
I feel so ill-equipped to handle it. I don’t know how to respond without getting upset so I just hurriedly leave the room. We’re all at sixes and sevens with communication and we’ve never been like this before.
Has anyone experienced this? Can anyone advise me? Should I suggest she talks to someone independent about these crushing feelings?
I’d finally got a sitter in tomorrow morning for three hours so that I could go home for an hour (first time since Christmas) but now I feel I can’t leave someone else with the responsibility.
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