I dont know if I'm strong enough for this

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Where do all you wonderful carers find the mental strength to do all you do. I'm so out of my depth its unbelievable.  I don't seem to be able to get it right whether I'm letting my husband do his own thing or not. My head is exploding, I'm so angry all the time and so frustrated.  In a matter of weeks my strong, kind, caring, wonderful husband has been diminished by this awful disease and I dont know how to handle it. 

  • Oh Jude I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending compassion, strength and hugs x

  • So sorry to hear this Jude. Sending condolences. 
    Xxx

  • Oh Jude. I’m sorry to hear this. I was re-reading this thread to remind myself that this isn’t just my life... and found that you’re already experiencing what will be my future reality fairly soon. Sending you my warmest wishes. If you ever need to vent please message me. xx

  • Yes I know exactly that feeling xx 

  • That sounds really tough, strength to you Hlta 

  • Jude, I'm so sorry.  Thoughts and prayers are with you - and the biggest hug. xxx

  • Hlta, I'm so sorry - for you and others on this thread. It's my daughter who has this horrible disease. Eight chemo cycles and two surgeries behind us, radio and fourteen more chemos to come when she's fully recovered from the latest op. It's heartbreaking to see your child suffer and not be able to take the pain away. I have very low times when I just feel beyond devastated - there are no words, but I know people here will understand. But somehow, you get up every morning and carry on. 

    Sending love, strength and hugs xxx

    PS ... Hlta, your user name caught my eye - assuming it's your job, it's mine too.

  • Yes it is or was. Not working anymore I couldnt manage the stress of the job as well as being a full time carer x

  • Same here. I loved the job but am retirement age. My husband is post stroke and needs a lot of support, then when daughter got cancer I just couldn't cope with carrying on working as well. xx

  • I'm only 56 but weve paid the mortgage off so I didnt feel there was any other option. I miss the children at work but it wasnt fair to them either. My head is always worrying about my husband so I couldnt do the job to the standard I wanted to. 

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