Hello everyone
I was diagnosed last Friday. Right breast and lymph nodes. It's all a bit of a shock. Went to Drs two weeks ago with feeling like I had flu and pain plus swelling lump and redness in right breast. He said at this appt he thought I may have an infection but felt it was more likely to be breast cancer. The consultant last Friday confirmed this. She went from being very jovial and conversational to serious and forthright within a nano second. Not a criticism but an observation.
My reason for posting is that I am so scared of what's happened in a short space of time. Team that with being told I am being made redundant last week as well. It's not related to my health. It's been in the pipework since October.
My son is away with his Dad till Friday. I am still trying to decide if I tell him upon his return or await final results on the 6th August. I do know that I will be having a mastectomy and chemotherapy. The consultant confirmed this last Friday.
I am single. Luckily ok financial wise for a year. Grateful for this. But feel completely out of my depth.
The last 5 years have been the worst of my life. Divorce. My eldest no longer speaks to me. Job loss back in 2015. House move. Auntie dying unexpectedly of luekimia.
I don't know where to pull my reserves from.
I am incredibly lucky to have great family and friends. But I still feel so alone and yes worried that there is more bad news to deal with as I keep running over the consultants face and words of last Friday.
Hello
Can i first welcome you to the community none of us want to be a member of but you will soon see that under the circumstances its the best place to be.
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, a big shock for all of us, but hopefully you will find comfort here with others who are in the same position as you or have been. Please rest assured that the short space of time you have been seen has nothing to do with your diagnosis. I think it is the done thing now if a Dr has any suspicions of cancer you will be seen within 2 weeks at the most. The same happened to my daughter last year and the nurse told her they call it "2 weeks to cancer" luckily my daughters wasn't. But just want you to know that you would have been seen that quickly whatever the outcome.
It is all a bit of a whirlwind at the start, appointments, scans, assessments but these are only to be sure that you are getting the correct treatment to treat you.
How old is your son? My advice would be to be as honest with him as you can. You don't want him over hearing anything and making his own ideas up of whats happening. I had chemotherapy and then a mastectomy but i know sometimes it is done the other way round depending on the cancer you have. I now have the all clear, i am cancer free, so keep positive you'll beat this.
I am on my own, my grown up son lives with me and my daughter lives away, to be truthful i didn't mind being on my own as i could rest when i wanted without feeling under pressure to do other things. You say you don't know where to pull your reserves from, i have every confidence in you, you find the strength and once you start your treatment you will feel more in control.
Please take a look in the Breast Cancer Group more people visit there and will offer you lots of advice and support. There is also a chemotherapy group (no point putting link on as they will be starting a new one for August tomorrow) where you will meet people who are going through the same as you or who have been through it. They offer amazing support and i can say they got me through the hard days.
As for your finances if you give Macmillan a ring they will tell you what is available for you once you finish work, their lines are open 8am - 8pm 7 days a week 0808 808 00 00
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