Very recently diagnosed.

Hello sorry to hear your diagnosis and that you find yourself here but you have already made one of the best steps you'll make.

This place will offer you support and advice day in day out and there is even a thread called Awake that has people there all hours to also chat to. 

This place has helped me more than you can imagine, i have been at this lark for the last 10 months and this place has been a godsend, you will find people who get you because unfortunately we're all in this together. I dealt with it by breaking it into steps, don't look too far in front, get one treatment / appointment etc out of the way then think about the next. Once you get a treatment plan you will feel so much better. The worse part of all of this is the waiting. Also know that it ok to have a meltdown every now and again, i use to have meltdown Sundays but have a cry and a rant then move onto the next day. MacMillan also have lots of people you can talk to as well as your breast care nurse. When ever i have had any worries i have rung my breast care nurse and she has talked things through with me and it always helps.

The Under 50s group is quiet so maybe try posting in the breast Cancer Group too, there are more people in there who will respond to you. They're a lovely bunch of people.

Never ever feel you don't have anyone to talk to, about anything, no question is a silly question and more times than not you find others are curious or have felt the same. Rant, Cry, Scream and on occasions have a laugh with us. 

You can do this and we're all right by your side to hold your hand when you need us xx

Hi  (I myself am a fan of the Script!) :)

Thank you for getting back to me! I really appreciate all of the information you have provided me with. I will be checking out the other threads and groups. :)

I have called my Breast Care Nurse a few times already and she has been wonderful, answering all of my questions and really making me feel better about the whole thing. But you're right, the waiting around is the worst part of it and the unknown. I have a date for my MRI now and surgery on the 15th which is always good to know. My sister is flying in as well and I feel so much better about having someone from my side of the family here for it. It's so hard being away from my Mom and sisters. It will be so nice to have the support.

Being positive is so hard and I'm trying my hardest to remain positive. It's just ironic for me because I Braved the Shave in July 2018 in memory of my Grandmother who passed away in May 2018 and now I'm needing to lean on MacMillan and the support of others.

Did you have a lumpectomy or a mastectomy? How did you find going to work and everything after your surgery? Did you recover quickly? My BCN told me that I would need about 2 months off. So sorry if I am being nosey!

xx

Before i tell you what i've had you need to remember everyone is different and everyone's treatments are different. 

I have had 2 lumpectomies and 3 weeks ago i had a mastectomy. I haven't been to work since last July mainly because i work at a Special needs school and the kids can sometimes be, lets say, over affectionate lol and sometimes quite challenging. But also because i started off having chemotherapy i couldn't be in work due to the risk of infection. There has been many times throughout all my treatment i could have gone back to work but was advised to stay off if i could. 

Like i say i had my mastectomy 3 weeks ago and its amazing how well i feel, in fact its been amazing how i felt a couple of days after the op. I would say it all depends on what job you do BUT remember you need to give yourself time to recover. i was also told 2 months. I had my mastectomy on 8th May and wanting to go back to work for July my consultant said it isn't impossible so hopefully i'll be back before they break up for the summer, i will then have 6 weeks off so it's not like i will be going back to work and working full time. My boss has also asked me to get a phased return for a couple of months too. But i will have had a year off work by then so again it will be very different for you. 

Don't worry about asking i'm happy to help all i can.

Take Care xx

Hi , 

So sorry you find yourself here. You will find lots of support here though. 

This blasted thing is hard enough with all your family and friends round, getting help and support from them etc, so it must be hard for you.

Only thing I would say is take each day at a time and find something to focus on. I walked a lot, especially just before starting chemo in January, yes it was cold, it was windy and hard some days, but it kept me sane, I felt it helped keep my energy levels up, gave me a routine and helped me sleep etc.

Wishng you lots of luck x