Hi everyone,
I'm 32 and have breast cancer with one affected lymph node (diagnosed in October 2025). Currently having chemotherapy, then surgery, then radiotherapy then immunotherapy.
I have a very supportive and emotionally available husband, thankfully. The rest of my family are very practical and unemotional - not helpful! I would describe myself of being surrounded by lots of friends. However, I am finding that I really am not comforted at all, by anything that anyone says or does. My husband tries extremely hard. I know it is difficult for people to find the right, supportive words (and I am not angry at them) but I just feel so unsupported, even though I have people around me.
I don't know why, but I had this idea that if you were diagnosed with cancer, charities were magical and could make such a difference and get you through it. I must say that I am not really feeling that, and so I feel lost. I have spoken to various charities (Macmillan, Breast Cancer Now and Maggie's) on the phone, in person and live chat. I have attended local support groups in my area and hoped to be comforted by them, but again, it doesn't seem like anything lands or makes 1% difference.
What upsets me the most is, even if someone had a magic wand and said you can have any type of support that you want, what would your wish be? - I wouldn't know how to answer.
Does anyone else feel like this, like nothing is helping, but not knowing what help you need?
