My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Lovely day here. I hope the sun is shining for most of you too both outside and in your hearts.
Sending positive thoughts and hoping you get through the day.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Fiona, you will enjoy that kitten so much. I wanted one when I lost my ginger cat Scooter just before Christmas but feel it would not be fair to my other old boy who is now Top Cat for the first time. But it would be so nice to have so much life in the house, enjoy!
Manda, hope today is better for you. Every month that goes by seems like such a long time and other times seems like yesterday.
I am slowly pulling myself out of the hole again, it is such a deep pit sometimes. So I hope to get moving again and get a few chores done before it hits once more. I did book Max in for his annual check up this week, now just need to book myself a haircut which is very very overdue. Our weather here is more like November than May, hoping for some sunshine soon.
enjoy your day
Lovely, lovely, lovely, lovely, lovely! I met with Ailsa today and she's just soooooooo lovely! It was as if we had known each other for ever and didn't stop talking, the time just flew by. I just wish I could shrink the UK and we could all live just a little bit closer and meet more easily, but...... we have plans!
Hugs Manda, cuddles for the kitten Fiona - Kofi and Geordie love our Dave now shall I send them up for a visit? Judi I think the snow is just getting silly now, I am sending the weather angels up there to get it sorted. Soothing, calming thoughts for you Dot and some sunshine for Alan's fishing with a big hug for you both. Bren I have knitted a pretty little sparkly rope which I have thrown around you and we are now going to haul you out of the deep pit, maybe hang onto it for a little while to stop you going over the edge, we have a cup of tea waiting and I will try and send some sunshine your way too xx Lesley, Helen, Patricia, Gayle, Lynne G, Ellen, Dave, John, all of our dear penguins sending you lots of love and a large Baileys or three xxxxxx
Great Rosemary, I am so pleased that you have met one of the 'penguins' at last. Yes Ailsa is lovely and so easy to talk to.
Bren, just hang on to Rosemary's sparkly rope and we will all pull you into the 'huddle' and hold you safe.
Well we now have a new Prime Minister. I hope that the country is in safe hands. Perhaps the penguin huddle should have taken over control lol.
We are now so many that I cannot readily remember every name but I hope that you are all ok. All those coming up to significant dates, ((((((hugs)))))
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Morning everyone,
So glad Ailsa and Rosemary met up - sounds like it was good fun and yes we must make sure we can all meet up at some point.
Judi, when I arrived in Aberdeen the sun came out :-) Thats why the snow stopped - not why it happened - you see lol. I was shattered last night from driving home but not back up again until the end of the month so I get a breather for a few weeks. Work is still manic and I am losing time spent working driving which is a pain but my mum is still working away for me which is a help. Not much else to report. Got a busy few days socialising coming up and then maybe going away on Saturday to the caravan for one night with the boys and my sister - god knows why I volunteered that lol but I am sure it will be fine.
Hope you all have a good day
Gayle xxx
Gayle, please take care not to overdo things. You need time to wind down. I worry that you are working too hard.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Evening my lovelies! I was going to take a photo from the ledge tonight but the clouds came over grey and it was a bit dreary, will wait until there is a beautiful sunset, or if there is a bright morning and I remember to take my camera to bed I will do one then. Bit quiet on here tonight, all at David Camerons house warming are we? Hello Gayle and Patricia! Ailsa, hope you've got home safely, or are safely on the way - I can imagine you now in your blue van with Sally commanding the route ;-)) Hope all of you are well and swimming (Lynne are you doing any swimming, when are you due back?) Hugs to you all, just off to make coffee if anyone wants one - hot chocolate or tea also available and, of course, Baileys never far away. Night night xxxxxxx
Rosemary, can I be cheeky and have a coffee with a Bailey's on the side please?...
Juat got home after being at my 12 year old nephew's birthday tea - always lovely to see the kids but so hard to see the glaring hole where my lovely man should be. I seem to be spending too much time doing the 'the time last year' thing at the moment. Must try harder to shake it off, can't seem to stop the tears at the moment.
Hope everyone is OK. Much love, Manda. xx
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