My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
We did travel to England last summer and 6 years ago and I do love going there but it won't be for a couple of years now if I could get there. You can all come to Canada, I would love to have you all here. Maybe next summer I could manage a trip to Britain though, you never know. The plane ride is very long but lots of movies and it is fun.
Max is part chocolate lab and part of many other breeds, he is 4 and does keep me going. I still have my one cat Brandy who is going to be 14 next month and diabetic so needs insulin needles every 12 hours. He is my cuddler at night.
anytime any of you want to cross the ocean, there is always room for a penguin here.
Hello ladies and Dave,
My can you lot talk!!! I haven't had my laptop on in a couple of days as I have just been too busy and logged on there and had to read about 10 pages! Don't believe a word that Lynne says about me talking lots :-)
Well we all seem to be in a good mood and looking forward to next week so that is good. I was up in Aberdeen on Friday, travelled back yesterday via the shops in Glasgow (I know - don't say a word!) and then was out again last night and got in very late (or early today lol) so I am soooo tired that it isn't even funny now. My head is just a fog and starting to feel ill with it. I have drank 2 bottles of lucozade and it is just making me shaky now. I am definitely getting too old for busy weekends. Its Ewan's 4th birthday tomorrow so going out for a meal tonight with my family and then I am going to collapse in bed and probably wake up about Wednesday although my insomnia has been really bad this week so great idea but will probably be up all night again. You will be pleased to hear that I have my mojo back. On the up!
Speak to you all soon (literally!!!).
Gayle xxx
Evening
Well I started posting but got carried away watching dancing on ice, what a body!!! lol is anyone watching it?
Sorry back to what I was doing hee hee!! I m on the tired front tonight too!! Up too early after a late night and a few glasses of wine. Gayle glad you re feeling better and more yourself xx
Lynne sooo brave to do your car bootie but glad it was successful. The gym was ok, couldnt do full programme so back next week but he`s being mean this time!! Told him I want to tone up now and boy he has given me some hard exercises and he hasnt finished yet!! He gave me a big hug though and said how well I was doing, bless him!!
Lets hope this week goes past quick and then we can all enjoy next Saturday. Checked my route, it will take 3 hours 18 minutes apparently!!
Hope everyone s Monday is ok, well for a Monday!!
Helen xxx
Just in from nice meal but bit tearful when they sang Happy Birthday in the restaurant to Ewan. But an ok tearful if you know what I mean. These moments will be all the way throughtout our lives so I suppose better get used to it.
Ok I don't watch Dancing on Ice but now intrigued. Who should I be watching???
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