Lost my husband three weeks ago

Hi there, yes, it is absolutely normal to feel lonely, even though you have loads of people around you. They will want to help and support you, but they can’t really understand the pain you are going through. I made a vow to myself a year ago, that I would support people on this Forum. Why ? They all really helped me a year ago. I am not sure I would have made it through, otherwise. It made a massive difference to me. I can just be myself, no pretence. Come here when you can. We all understand. Sending strength and hugs for tomorrow. Kate. Xxx

As Kate says, this forum has been the biggest help to me. 
More than family and friends who have not lost their beloved, their soulmate, their glue. 
More than the counsellor or the mental health nurse. They were / are brilliant to talk to, for me face to face.

People will give you advice, words of “wisdom”, catchphrases. 
I have to remind myself that they are trying their true best to help and support me, but without that inner pain, raw overwhelming grief, loneliness, sadness, they can never know what I am going through. 
In the words of Spock to McCoy “you have to have died and been reborn to be able to converse on the subject” (paraphrasing there!).

You may loose people you thought of as friends and find friends you never knew where always on the sidelines. 
I have cut out of my life a few negative energy so called friends.

If you have a wardrobe with some of his clothes in it’s a great place to hide in and scream. 
As is the shower for crying. 
And hoovering covers the sound of your grief as well. Especially in this warm weather with doors and windows open.

Above all don’t let anyone tell you what you should be doing. Where you should be on this cracked, crooked, winding back on itself, swamp of a path. 
You do it your own way, at your own pace. 
Haha, just read my words and already told you what to do

So come on this site to rant, tell us about your love, how you are feeling as we do understand. 

I will take a moment tomorrow and think of you x

I hope today, goes ok for you.

As,as already been said . Come on here to rant or ramble. I am afraid we will understand. 

Please look after yourself and take care.

Just remember this is your journey, so do what is right for you. Don't be bullied into how you think or what you should do.

Thank you all for your kind words the support from people who truly understand what I am going through is comforting. It’s the first time I haven’t felt alone in three weeks.  

C 

Final countdown now just about to get ready. Just need to get through the eulogy I hope to make him proud. It’s the very last thing I can do for him is to stand up and speak for him. 

I hope everything went ok for you today.

I hope so too. X

Me, too. Kate.xxx

Hi,

I like you lost my husband 3weeks ago, his funeral was a week ago today and I am forever crying.feeling alone yet have wonderful family  and friends around me but I don’t want them I just want my husband here but I know that can’t be physically so , I then tell myself he’s in my heart and by my side and even though I can’t see him , everywhere I go he is looking after me and that the pain will ease and I will want to be among our friends again.