My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Morning Lynne.  I'm not worried just concerned and missing you.  Seems silly to ask you questions about your hands when you should be elevating them and trying to get some sleep so really can't answer me.  So I will just send you lots of ((((((((hugs)))))))) and I will check after work to see if you have got to the bottom of the problem.

Judi - third full day today?  Hope you have a good one.  Same for everyone else.  Ailsa xx

Good morning all

Goodness Lynne, I wonder what could be causing the problem, if they are no better you must get them looked at.

Judi, as always your posts make me smile. Full days eh?!!! Whatever next! I am not away, have been at home but Rachel has been here daily to help me. Catface has had to go outside a little more as he is under my feet so much that I am afraid I will trip up. Also can't bend yet to feed him. He still prefers to sit under his cold, wet bush to entering his plush cat house. There was a guest cat in the garden the other day, it was very grateful for the treats, biscuits and blanket..... so I have probably spent the best part of £100 to treat the neighbourhood cats to a hotel for the night!

My back feels better again today, I am taking it slowly though as I don't want any setbacks. I really want to be well enough to go to the hairdressers on Sat', don't want to be showing up in Newcastle with my silver bits on view, lol!

I am hoping to go to see Alice in Wonderland, with Jonny Depp, it looks fantastic, I will have to see if Rachel and Dave can get other grandma to Daniel sit so I can go with them.

Bren, hope today finds you in a more postivie mood. I find pampering myself helps some. Go on, you deserve it!

It looks like being another sunny day here in Manchester, yes we do get them occasionally! Do you think we might have seen the last of the snow??

Manda, are you OK, haven't heard from you since Mon' hope you are keeping busy.

Have a good day everyone. Hugs Lesley x 

lynne, hun

Huge ((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) for you

get thee to a doctor!!

Sue xxxx

Morning all , well i've managed to sleep a little bit , not easy when your trying to stick your hand in the air .. The swelling has gone down a littlebut not enough to gert my rings off . I'm not really to concerned with theswelling , it is my rings i'm bothered about . i can turn them a little now so i will see how they go on today , at least i will be near the A and E if i need to go and getthem seen to . Luckily i dont start work till 11 so i've got a little more time to elavate and freeze .. Thanks Rosemary for all the advice via text .. I'll sign off now as i'm "doing a Lesley " and typing with the 1 remaing finger thats not swollen .. Take care ..

. Lynne (aka fat fingers today ) xxxxx

Oh Lynne, poor you. Hope your fingers are better now.

I am still under the water, hanging on barely.  I know it will get a little better soon but it is so hard when the tidal wave hits.  At least I am managing to get through work before the tears start in the car.  We do have much nicer weather and the sun is shining so maybe a walk with the dog after work will help.  Judi I don't know how you manage to run home at lunch for the dogs, I wish I could but live too far to do that.  Thanks for the cuddles, it does help

Sending out loving and healing vibes to all who are in need this day.I hope that you are all soon feeling much better whether it be a physical or a mental hurt you are suffering.

Thank you for all your kind thoughts and texts over the past week. One more 'first' over with.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Ah Bren and Patricia , stay in the middle my fat fingers will go round you both and keep you safe .. I managed to get the 2 rings off that we're causing me the most problems , i'd already taken off another 2 in the night . The ironic thing is , of all my rings and i normally 7 , the only 3 that haven;t caused me problems are my wedding and engaement rings and Gordons wedding ring which i also wear . I wore another ring on the same finger as Gordons wedding ring and that was 1 of the problem ones . All these rings fitted ok , if not a little loose so why 4 would be a problem and 3 not i dont know . My fingers are still swollen but not as bad , Rosemary and Gayle have seen pics of the offending fingers and they wasn't pretty lol .. I have felt a lot better in my self today , i think the fact i was working on my own at the begining of the week didn't help really , too much time to think , but my boss saw that i wasn't good and managed to get one of the men to do the late shift with me , my normal crew mate is off sick .. He is tottally bonkers so i cant stay down for long . Thanks for the support AGAIN .. Going to get some tea and i'll be back , microwave here i come , sorry girls xxxxx

Hi All,    Lynne i do hope the swelling in your hands have gone down,  Bren hugs to you? Lesley glad your back a bit better be very careful what you are doing and don't hurt it again. Well i had Charlie all day and enjoyed every minute we went a long walk this morning i will probably feel it tomorrow not walked as much for ages. Kim not back to school full time until after easter just in a day a week just now, it was a course she was in today. Darren getting on fine at work got the rest of this week so it gives him some money at least. Not long till our meet now, was hoping to have lost some weight but to late now with only a week to go. Judi glad work going ok. Having a friend down tonight for a coffee so that passes the night. Been a good day here but got cold in the afternoon. Hope everyone else doing ok? Fiona xxxxxxxxxxx     

What busy bees we all are, obvioulsy there is something in that but then I bet you were all really busy before all this, just not the manic busy we find now.  Lynne glad your rings have released you and hopefully your fingers are going down not - I take it you didn't go to a doctor?  Bad girl!  Very worried about you and exepecially after seeing that photo!

Bren hope you are feeling a bit better, it is so very early for you at the moment and as Judi said it does get easier to cope with the feelings as time goes on - although in a peverse way you then end up feeling guilty because you do cope better, but remember always it NEVER means you love them or miss them any less, it just means that the survival instinct is in all of us and we do have to carry on.  Stay in the middle of the huddle for a while, we'll keep you safe.

Two more sleeps and I get my DANIEL home (sorry Judi did I say that too loud? lol) he reported (via Facebook) that they got stuck in a lift yesterday and one of the other lads has lost his wallet (or it may have "gone missing" when they went back to a young ladies apartment in the wee small hours!)  He is going to find it amazing to see his cottage now, so much has changed, although there is so much more to do.  Once he's back he might let me put them on Facebook and you can see why I have been a bit distracted and knackered (even more than usual) this last week or so. 

Quite jealous of you lot meeting up now, feel like a proper southerner - although Ailsa might be down this way in a couple of months, which would be fantastic.  As it turns out Sam has booked that weekend to go away for a night with her boyfriend (don't think she has thought about the mothers day bit yet), so it will be me and the dogs that night and I will be texting you lot to let you know I love you all.

Patricia hope you are ok, you have come through a big few firsts now and are the other side - it feels odd in another way doesn't it?  So there is a hand holding out to you and a big hug for you to walk into, you have my number and I'm here whenever you need someone.  (That goes for the other penguins too, with Dan working nights or when he's out or away I often have the phone on overnight so in the wee small hours you can usually get me if you need a word) 

Hugs to you all, will go and open the bar as usual - PJ's and teddy bears always welcome, no penguin will ever be turned away.  Lots of love and hugs xxxxxxx

Thanks for all the advice this morning Rosemary , i've kept off the coffee lol , and i've been massaging them all day , they just look a bit deformed now . Sorryi haven't been to the doctor , i think it was just one of those things , i want my rings back on tho but i wont put them on till there back to normal . Is it to late for you to come Rosemary , i know its a long way but we would all love it . please please ........