My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Morning, at least it is late morning on this side of the pond. I was interested in reading your posts about the Tube in London. When Dan and I went to England 5 years ago and spent a week in London, we took the Tube once. Dan had many problems, one of which was he couldn't handle crowds, had lots of anxiety issues. He didn't like the tube at all. I did, it was so fast. But I found that I could figure out how to get all over London with a bus map and the buses were as you have said a better way to see where you are and how far it is to where you want to be. Plus you can see all the sights as well. Dan was fine on the buses.
I am still fighting this nasty cold. I did work Thursday and Friday and came home and collapsed on Friday. I had to cancel my guests for dinner yesterday because I could not have handled that. Spent yesterday doing nothing at all but I did have a good sleep last night so hope to get out and pick up some essentials today as well as get this poor dog for a bit of a walk. It has not stopped snowing since Thursday but looks like it is fairly mild out, the road looks wet so I should be fine in the car. I am tired of being sick and need it to go away. I am leaving on the 11th for Toronto and then Albany New York the next day so need to be well.
I have now forgotten what you all have written except for the thongs and heels, got a chuckle out of that. Lesley poor you, I do hope you start to feel better soon. Manda welcome back, I am glad you managed to have some fun even if it was a very sad homecoming. Everyone else have a good Sunday
Bren
Thank you girls! I have looked into the buses and found the right one for Sam and she is much happier to do that than the tube. Oh my goodness!!!! Daniel has just text me.... all he said was "Love you" NOW I'm worried!!!!!! Probably had a few drinks and feeling homesick, bless.
Ok, lost the thread of all thoughts now umm, what was I going to say? Oh darn it, love to you all, big hugs, hope you are all ok. xxxxxx
Love and ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) for you Rosemary xxxxxxxx
Thanks Dot, just been in text with him and he says he's ok but he sounds a bit down, think he's missing home and his dad a bit, which probably means he's also overtired. They are off for a meal and then to the club again tonight, needs to come home for a rest! You ok Dot? Hugs to you xxxxx
Bless him.........when is he due home???
As for me - well still trying very hard to keep a clear head and not go into melt-down!!! Doesn't take much does it??? Alan has 2 appointments at hospital on Tuesday - good planning or what?? A new appointment at Dermatology for a blemish that's appeared on his face and yet another trip to Haematology to check on his Myeloma................Times like this I feel......uncertain and in need of reassurance that all will be well again.........Silly really as I know that will not happen!!! We will just have to carry on coping from day to day as best we can..........
Sorry i didn't mean to be a miserable whatsit tonight..........
Love and (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) to you and your family
Dot xxxxxxxxxxxx
Comforting ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) for you Lynne xxxx When I'm reminded of your stories and situations I have to remember that all in all I'm 'lucky' cos my hubby is still here - only just at times - but here!!!!!! I don't know the why's and wherefore's of happy endings and whether they really do happen but I will keep my fingers crossed for you that one day you will find at least find peace for your aching heart........
Love and more (((hugs)))) Dot xxxxxxxxx
Oh, fair maiden - we shall just have to wait and see. in the meantine, we shall grow a hedge of briars roses around our penguin huddle, and every so often one or other of us will put out some feelers to see whether or not there is life beyond.
Fear not, fair maiden; we may have lost our handsome princes, but their love lives on in our hearts, and always will.
Sue xx
PS Just as long as we don't have to kiss any frogs!!
Sue - have you read 'Princess Smartypants'? If I remember right when she kissed the prince he turned into a frog - then she rode off on her motorbike!!!!!!
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