My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

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My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa

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    Hello everyone

    Lesley I do hope you are healing well and the pain is getting less.  I do envy you all getting to meet each other!  Wish I could go, I love your country so much.  Ailsa, Liverpool was one of the stops on our cruise last summer that we really looked forward to and when we got there, we were both down with a gastro virus so missed it and Dublin, the two most important ports for us!  Actually on March 13 I am going to a medium as well, in New York, that is why the trip to Albany.  I hope he shows up, he is very well known in the United States, John Edward. 

    We are having extremely mild weather here for January, even the birds are coming back!  So good walking weather and that is about all I am up to these days apart from work.  I am trying to get a little sorted each day (not going to touch Dan's stuff yet, not ready for that) but I am a pack rat and junk is taking over my house so am trying to get at it.  I had wanted a quiet weekend to rest and I did get it but that also means a lonely weekend, so can't have it both ways I guess.

    take care

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    around here it's - 'red shoes....no kn*****s'.....................

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    That one too!  and red hats.

                    

    All in all, a perfect outfit, doncha know.

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    All at the same time?? = nothing underneath.......bbbrrrrrrrr

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    Bren - very jealous - John Edward is brilliant - used to watch his show all the time!!!  Hope he picks you xxx

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    hope you dont mind me popping on

    lynn your dream sounds funny i am sure you all have a brill time  and you  will have some stories to tell us  i am sure  when you  all come back  looking forward to hearing  about them lovely to about kev  we going to benidorm for easter wasnt  going to go  with losing v  but kids and family said go

    love to all

    take care love janice xxxx

     

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    Ha Ha Dottee that lady in my dream is now the image i have of you so sorry cant change it , and yes she was warm and "huggy " how could she not be she was you xx..  Bren i havn't heard of John Edward but i'm going to watch for him from now on , how ironic that you are having the nice weather whilst we have to ski to work lol , send some sunshine please xx .... Janice course you can pop in anytime you like , you popped into my dream lol . Hope your doing ok Janice , have you had V,s funeral yet or am i right in thinking its next week sometime ? Benidorm so jealous , i love it , room for a little un , i'm house trained and dont cause to much trouble lol xx...Good luck with the hospital in the morning Lesley xx Judi its been doing my head in cos i couldn't get fresh flowers in the cemmy but hopefully now i should be able to get lots in again xx Hope everybody is having a good evening .. Pictures spot on Sue xxx 

      Take care    

     Lynne xxxx

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    Dear Janice - I bet there'll be some funny stories too!!!!  Get packing for Benidorm - you deserve a break somewhere sunny and warm.........rest and relax and come back to tell us your funny stories too...............

    Love and ((((hugs)))))  Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxx