My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hello everyone
Lesley I do hope you are healing well and the pain is getting less. I do envy you all getting to meet each other! Wish I could go, I love your country so much. Ailsa, Liverpool was one of the stops on our cruise last summer that we really looked forward to and when we got there, we were both down with a gastro virus so missed it and Dublin, the two most important ports for us! Actually on March 13 I am going to a medium as well, in New York, that is why the trip to Albany. I hope he shows up, he is very well known in the United States, John Edward.
We are having extremely mild weather here for January, even the birds are coming back! So good walking weather and that is about all I am up to these days apart from work. I am trying to get a little sorted each day (not going to touch Dan's stuff yet, not ready for that) but I am a pack rat and junk is taking over my house so am trying to get at it. I had wanted a quiet weekend to rest and I did get it but that also means a lonely weekend, so can't have it both ways I guess.
take care
around here it's - 'red shoes....no kn*****s'.....................
All at the same time?? = nothing underneath.......bbbrrrrrrrr
Bren - very jealous - John Edward is brilliant - used to watch his show all the time!!! Hope he picks you xxx
hope you dont mind me popping on
lynn your dream sounds funny i am sure you all have a brill time and you will have some stories to tell us i am sure when you all come back looking forward to hearing about them lovely to about kev we going to benidorm for easter wasnt going to go with losing v but kids and family said go
love to all
take care love janice xxxx
Dear Janice - I bet there'll be some funny stories too!!!! Get packing for Benidorm - you deserve a break somewhere sunny and warm.........rest and relax and come back to tell us your funny stories too...............
Love and ((((hugs))))) Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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