My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Ailsa - I did the Pontefract RfL last year with my sister and nieces - we walked rather than jogging or running!!!  I will be walking again this year..........I've already signed up as interested so will get dates soon I hope.  We had a lovely - but very emotional - afternoon............ Maybe we could get together there???  Anyone else in this area to join in????

I rarely watch TV (Alan is a closet 'Trekky') and so spend a lot of time - when not on here - making cards.  I'm planning to hold coffee mornings on a regular basis to sell them - I've got a big boxful for all ocassions...........

And you're welcome to the ideas - if I think of any more I'll let you know...........

Love and ((((((((hugs)))))))))  Dot xxxxxxxxxxx

Hi everyone. Here I am again. Not a 'bossy secretary' but a bossy 'health worker' who has from time to time to assert her authority and tried it out on you lot. Sorry.  Hey sometimes we have no idea what is good for us and need someone else to tell us lol.

Now, what could we all do to make like have some purpose? Dottee you are quite right, the 'Race for life' is an option. I missed it last year as I didn't feel able or well enough to participate. A craft group would have been good. Mmmmm..... we will have to get our thinking caps on and see what we come up with. (not holding out much hope for my so called brain though.... it seems to desert me most of the time).

Lynne, I am glad you 'appear' to be feeling better although I am less than convinced.

Ailsa, I talk about Ray lots and lots. Very few conversations don't include some mention of him in one way or another. You probably did talk about him before but were not quite so aware of it. Or... maybe it is just that now you are considering what  Chris might have said or done in any given situation.

Sue, Amanda, Fiona, Helen, Dave, Lesley, Gayle, Esme take care and I hope that tomorrow brings better and more positive things your way. x x x

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

seems I took so long to post that I missed a few other people posting lol x x x

Ok Patricia , you know best lol i'll do as i'm told for once xx I am trying my hardest to be strong and not slip backbut i know i probably will at sometime xx. I think the race for life is a fantastic idea, i did it last year 5 days after Gordon died , i was always doing it for my mum but had Gordons picture on my back aswell , which is a thing i never expected to do . I was planning along with sisters , daughter and neices to do it this year so if we all sign up at our various ones how great would that be ? . When i say race i meant walk and talk all the way round lol . I still think there will be lots of things for us to do together aswell , starting with the meet , and who knows where we will go from there . I think Judi and Sue will come up with something xx Yes i saw it on the news about the frozen rain and i'm amazed that there wasn't more accidents today . Hope we get the promised slow thaw soon .

. Take care

 Lynne xxxx

Evenong to you all,  I like all the ideas card making, race for life i have done it a few times but last year they didn't do it in my area and i would have had to travel a bit to do it. I will wait and see what happens this year. Well i said last night snow was all away but i am afraid it's white here again and very cold. We are all feeling down just now i think, don't think it really matters how far we are down the line it still hurts everyday, and we all wish things could be differant. I have Derek's birthday on the 18th Jan. Darren text me this morning and is going to phone tomorrow so he has not forgot his ma. He is having a ball and i am so pleased he is enjoying it. He will have to work at some point as his money will not last for ever.  Charlie still got the cold just doesn't seem to be shifting. I am off work tomorrow so will go and see my dad if i van get the car out the drive, i hate driving in this weather roll on the better days. Luv and Hugs to you all. Fiona xxxxxxxxx   

You guys are ..... (I am hearing the music in my head ..... listen really carefully and you will too) "Simply the Best ....da da da da .. better than all the rest" (did you hear it?)

Thank you all so much for your words, your support and your genuine concern.  I can't wait until I get to see you all - can you imagine what a hugfest it will be - We had better not all check in at once (where and when ever it is) or the receptionist will throw us out!

Rosemary, you have got me thinking too now .... but not about getting naked for a Calendar Girl shoot .... but something.  Such a pity that we are all so spread out, but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank and wonder at the invention of the internet .... can you imagine if this were ten years ago .... Nnnnnooooooo.

My mum and sister are both really crafty .. if you know what I mean.  When Ed was unwell I started making knitted junky jewellery and enjoyed doing it, I did sell a few bits (foolish friends!) but gave the rest away to our local CLAN centre after he died.  It is an amazing place that provides accommodation for patients and carers that have to travel distances to Aberdeen and also therapies to patients, carers etc all free gratis. 

I haven't done any since Ed died as I think I ‘made associations' in my head. 

I have a feeling that cut and paste photo didn't work ..... I will know when I click on post.  Sue .... help!!!    Anyway I am thinking that I might give it another go and see if I can do anything with it, you never know.  And yes, I could get the dogs the model it while we are out walking - well I make them wear pyjamas don't I!!

I also did my fair share of ice skating today but completely take my hat off to you Lynne.  Scary stuff.  And Ailsa and Patricia, I could talk about Ed for Britain, and often do – the dogs are very good listeners!!!

Speak to everyone later

Judi xx

As I suspected, my copying of photo didn't work...... so maybe some classes from Sue to show this numpty how to do it would fill me time????

Night all, Judi xx

Judi, you are no 'numpty'.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Can only assume that many have sore fingers from mad typing earlier!

I am a bit of a numpty at times Patricia but try to hide it!  And I still can't work out if it is a problem with the photo stored on my computer or if it is that I can't get it in here!! and that was after TWO hours.... argghhh.  So I have given up. 

Hope everyone is doing okay, I send love to all.

Judi xx

Hi everyone.  So late for me to get on here tonight but my youngest daughter has decided to buy a house with her boyfriend so she has been scanning paperwork and emailing it all for the past 4 hours and hogging my PC.  As Patricia says Judi - you are no numpty.  The photo you want to load needs to be on the internet already.  Facebook will do.  Load it on your facebook page and then open a new message on here while you have your facebook open as well.  Copy the photo from FB and paste it into your message on here.  It is a while since I last did it - it might have been on the old mac site - so I could do with Sue confirming that that is still how to do it.

How are you tonight Patricia?  I have left it a bit late so I had better get off to bed or I will be sleeping at work tomorrow.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx