My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hi Everyone,
Well not been so bad today just kept busy all day, I am getting a new carpet in my bedroom tomorrow so alas again i needed my son to help me i am sure he doen't mind but i just hate asking him to always help. Went to cemetary with flowers for Derek and my mum had my usual cry. I also moved some of Derek's things today but could not get rid of them yet so just put them into the other room but as you say Ailsa there is no rush to do it and i am sure we will know ourselves when the time is right.
Been to my dad's for tea tonight my sister makes it and brings it round, so thats passed the evening for me don't know how i will cope when the dark nights come round again. Well better get off to bed and see how i sleep tonight.
Take Care
Fiona xxxx
Evening Everyone,
Well my day not been to bad was working and sale started so kept busy and since i came home had a few visitors in so just had tea. Kev i am sure your son will keep you busy over the holidays is there holidays started yet we are into our second week here. My daughter is a primary teacher so she is enjoying her holidays.
Helen hope you on ok at the gym , think i could do to join one as needing to loose some weight i think it's everybody looking after me and inviting me to dinner. It would be a good idea give me something to do when winter nights come again not looking forward to them. Well will go and try and have a early night as not sleeping till late but at least i am resting in bed.
Take Care
Fiona xx
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