My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Thanks Kev. I couldn't find a way to put the drill onto hammer. I have found another drill since and I think Chris must have had drills for jobs! What is it about men and power tools? Next time I need to drill into a wall I will try the other drill. Chris gave a couple of lessons before he died but the job I practised on was drilling into a wooden post so I don't need the hammer so I was introduced to the other drill!
I hope you and everyone else have had a decent day today. I have a relaxing evening planned. I need to make a couple of phone calls that I have been putting off because I wasn't in a very good mood in the past few days. They are to people who care about me so I need to ring them.
I thought I would be even more down today because this is the day Chris went in to have his AP resection last year and of course it didn't do the trick. I was very upset yesterday but now I am thinking that maybe yesterday was a bad day because the 6th July 08 was the last day that Chris was so well and then we made him so ill. I have no idea why I don't feel so bad today but I am going to make the most of it. Take care everyone. Ailsa xx
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