My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

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My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa

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    Nothing happens when i click on more , i cant even add favorites , dont know if its just me or pc , hope you decide on the car Helen , it sounds nice xx

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    Wel I`ve sort of chosen a car, my head is swimming with figures, etc!! We ran out of time at the garage as son had to go to work so going back tomorrow with father in law as they are talking about different things they`ll throw in if I pay one way or other things for another deal so need a second opinion!!!!

     

    It`s a Fiat Grande Punto which I`m pleased with, sort of metallic slate grey, 18 months old!! Son approves too!! I was very brave and took it for a test drive.

     

    Waiting for x factor, shattered after being out all day!! Have a good night Lynne. What`s everyone else up to?

     

    Helen xxx

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    Thanks Helen , i'm looking forward to going out , but i'm looking forward to watching x factor and srictly tommorow night . xxxxx

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    Hi helen

    Glad you have found a car you like. I am really pleased with mine. Nothing much planned tonight am watching telly. My youngest has a friend over for a sleep over and the oldest is away at guide camp, they are at least lucky with the weather as they have had to make their own tents with groundsheets and wood. Picking her up at lunch time tomorrow then off to cook lunch at dads. been busy in the garden this afternoon, have managed to dig up three very overgrown shrubs it is looking much better now. Planning on getting rid of the decking as it is rotten and putting in slabs as it is what me and Liam had planned to do. Now that the shrubs are away I can expand it.

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    Hello everyone,

    Well this will take a bit of getting used to but I think it looks better so we will see.  Had a busy day as finally got my new car yesterday after waiting 3 weeks!!!  The registration documents were missing at the garage so they couldn't tax it so finally got them yesterday and they delivered it for me.  Love the car though and took it to Halfords today to get the bluetooth fitted so all up and running.  I came back home though and the company phoned to see if they could pick up Wully's car today which they did so that was pretty sad.  I think it was watching it getting driven away as that is the first I have seen someone drive it and it just brought memories back so had a bit of a cry afterwards but the boys gave me hugs and kisses.

    Apart from that just totally stressed about the house move.  Can't wait for it to be all over lol!!  Have a skip coming on Monday so will start clearing the garage.  The house won't take long to pack up and I have a friend who has went through a nasty seperation and has moved into a rented house with her two young kids who needs furniture and stuff so hopefully offload a lot of stuff to her. 

    Glad to hear you got the car Helen and hope it goes okay tomorrow finalising it all.  Just sitting watching tv today after being on the wii fit.  Trying to motivate myself to get fit although moving house will probably help with all the work lol!

    Gayle xx

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    Hi Gayle glad you finally got your car. Know just how you feel about the car, as we had a motability one and that was horrible taking it back as it just held such good memories. I find with moving house it is never as bad as you think once you get stuck in with the packing it soon gets done. Glad your boys are giving you lots of loves, what would we do without them.

    Debs x

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    Yes it was pretty horrible but in some ways glad it is gone as it is one more step along the road if you know what I mean.  Boys are great at looking after me.  Don't know what I would do without them.  Quite a few good singers on X factor tonight - hopefully that means the live shows might be quite good!

     

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    Yes it was a good show and on again tomorrow, so know what i'm watching tomorrow. yeh know what you mean with the car, and having to move on I guess some times life has a way of forcing you onwards even when you don't want it to.

    debs x

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    Glad you got the car finally Gayle.   Good luck getting organised for house move.

    Lynne have a good evening.

    Sue, lovely pic x x

    Quill don't forget to go to bed tonight.  Yes I have been in chat before and trust me it is VERY addictive lol.

    Fiona, glad you found your way here at last. 

    Debs good luck with decking etc.

    Everyone else, hello and hope you are finding your way the site.

    x x Patricia x x

     

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    Hi Patricia,

    I am finally going to give in tonight and go to bed, lovely chatting to you in chat.

    Sleep well everyone.

    love Quill xxx